Sexology 101

Is Your Sexual Fetish Normal? 7 Things You Need To Know About Fetishes

It can be tough to start a conversation about your sexual fetish with a new partner, and in some part, that’s because of a huge misunderstanding about fetishes in general. A lot of us don’t even fully understand our fetishes, and in many cases, that leads to shame.

But there’s no need to feel that way because you don’t choose your fetish, and truth be told, they’re really common.

Here’s what else you should know about your sexual fetish.

It doesn’t have to do with gender.

Some think that fetishes – especially BDSM – can only go one way. But that’s just not true at all, women can be Doms and men can be subs. And when it comes to trying it, the Journal of Sex Research study found that levels of fetishism and masochism are not drastically different between men and women, reports The Independent.

You’re allowed to discuss your sexual fetish with your partner.

If you’re interested in trying out a sexual fetish with your partner, you might be nervous about how they’ll react. But if you’re in a supportive, healthy relationship, your partner is going to want for you to be sexually satisfied. Talking about sex should be a fun bonding experience, not a scary one.

They’re allowed to say no, and it’s not personal.

Although your partner will want you to get what you need, they shouldn’t do anything they’re not comfortable with. So if they say no, try not to take it personally. It has nothing to do with the person – it’s more about how you feel about trying out the act.

You can always go online.

If you’re single and looking to try something a bit kinkier, there’s likely an online platform for you. The Internet has everything from fetish sites like to message boards where you can learn more about your fetish, it’s an amazing resource.

Your partner may be trying to tell you about one, too.

Remember how many people were interested or had tried out a fetish? It’s not weird at all. You might notice your partner hinting at wanting to try something new. Maybe you both want to experiment in the same way, but neither of you are brave enough to just say it explicitly. Be brave and ask! 

There’s probably nothing too specific.

I know that you hear about leather, BDSM, and foot fetishes all the time, but there is seriously nothing too niche. There’s something out there for you – find your people.

Some are more common than you might think.

It’s not all Fifty Shades of Grey when it comes to fetishes. Surveys have found that cross-dressing and foot fetishes fell in the top 10 most common fetishes, as did water sports. So seriously, there’s no need to worry about whether or not you’re ‘normal’.

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Why You Should Be Very Careful About Buying Sex Toys From Big Online Retailers Make Sure You Get the Pleasure You Want!

There are many online retailers where you can shop when buying sex toys. Today, we’re using Amazon as an example.

Amazon has more than a million brands, hundreds of millions of products and more than five million marketplace sellers. There is no data available regarding how many of those products are sex toys, but the site’s “sexual wellness” is full of vibrators, dildos, and other sex toys.

The problem is that even if you shop on Amazon after doing some research you might end up with a fake. This has to do with the way Amazon commingles listings from different sellers on the site – and the way it fulfills them.

The worst part is, these lower priced counterfeit goods can easily out-compete authentic, well-made sex toys on Amazon and at other retailers. To add to the confusion, Amazon is rife with fake reviews that further confuse consumers about what they’re getting.

Why So Many People Turn to Amazon When Buying Sex Toys

The appeal of shopping for sex toys on Amazon is twofold. One, as we’ve mentioned, is that there appear to be some good prices on toys that are in demand. The other is that Amazon is so mainstream that it may make people feel more comfortable about buying sex toys.

Buying a vibrator can be adventurous enough, so having a private retail experience you are comfortable with can make it easier to buy something that feels uncomfortable to buy.

How All This Cheap Stuff Hurts the Sex Toy Industry and Consumers

If you don’t know much about the sex toy industry, you may not know how much it’s changed over the past 10 years or so. Buying sex toys is becoming more mainstream and, as a result, consumers are no longer ashamed to demand high-quality, body-safe toys for their money.

The products being released today have more research behind them than ever. Companies are fine-tuning motors and shapes, but they are also elevating the entire experience for consumers who are buying sex toys.  They’re doing this by hiring sex educators, providing sex education and getting really involved at the consumer level.

Plus, consumers are getting smarter. We now know that some materials aren’t safe enough to put into our orifices. We know that sexual pleasure – including any devices used to achieve it – isn’t weird or shameful, it’s a part of being human. And we know that many companies out there have been stepping up and putting in the hard work to make beautiful, safe, well-designed pleasure products for people.

Don’t You Owe It To Yourself?

If you’re in the market, you owe it to yourself to get a product that’s made by a manufacturer who actually cares about your pleasure and your health, and one that will deliver the goods for years to come. They don’t come cheap, but they are worth your time and money.

After all, when you are buying sex toys you are essentially buying into the idea that you deserve pleasure. Don’t you want to make sure you actually get it?

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