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Dom Sub: 6 Sexy Ideas Domination and submission are wide categories, and mean different things to different people.

We’re always hearing that we could be having better sex, a better orgasm or a better relationship. But how often do we hear how we can better understand our deepest desires and most embarrassing questions like those in a Dom sub relationship?

As a reminder, domination and submission are pretty wide categories, and mean different things to different people. Some of the games on this list might sound really hot; some may feel like they cross the line. Talk through each of these suggestions together and see which ones seem safe and sexy to the two of you.

Of course, don’t forget to discuss boundaries and safe words. You can’t play these types of games unless you and your partner are great communicators who are willing to talk about the ins and outs of sexual safety!

Dom Sub Tampa: Our Suggestions

  1. The Guessing Game. This is an incredibly hot game that can be adjusted for all different levels. The Dom blindfolds the sub or makes them promise to keep their eyes closed. Once the sub can’t see, the Dom collects a series of items to stimulate the sub’s body with (make sure to agree on the specific items beforehand, or at least agree on whether or not pain will be involved). As they’re being touched with each item, the sub has to guess what the item is. A correct guess might elicit a reward, while an incorrect one might earn a “punishment”.
  2. Sensory Deprivation. You can take any of your Dom/sub play to the next level by cutting off one or more of the sub’s senses at a time. The sub will feel even more at the mercy of their Dom, as when one sense is eliminated, the others get heightened. Try blindfolding the sub or have them wear earplugs or headphones, so they can’t hear any of the Dom’s movements.
  3. Clothes Control. An easy Dom/sub game to play is to allow the Dom to pick what the sub wears. You can limit it to a play session, or a specific day, or you can try longer periods of time. The Dom can choose sexy lingerie, accessories, role-playing outfits or demand that the sub be naked all day.
  4. Hidden Signs. It’s one thing for the Dom to exert influence over their sub within the confines of their own home, but another to take it out in public. Have the Dom pick something that the sub has to wear out and about. Some hot possibilities are a collar or harness that can be hidden under clothing. Or try a sex toy, like a pair of Ben-Wa balls.
  5. Surprise Demands. There are a million different ways to play this game, but the basic idea is that the Dom surprises their sub with a specific set of personal requirements that have to be fulfilled by the time the Dom gets home. The Dom can leave a list in a place where the sub will find it, or can send text or an email. The Dom can make it as simple or as elaborate as they please. It can even be set up like a treasure hunt, with specific clues to follow.
  6. Remote Domination. Long-distance lovers can get in on the Dom/sub action too, thanks to all of the Bluetooth-enabled sex toys flooding the market these days. The Dom can instruct the sub to insert the toy and wait until the Dom decides to turn it on. The Dom can tease their sub by only giving them little tastes of vibratory pleasure. The sub can also be given specific instructions not to orgasm, even as the Dom goes to town with the controls.

Ready to get started with a Dom Sub Relationship?

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10 Reasons We Love Masturbation Tampa

Did you know that May is National Masturbation Month? In order to get you ready for the celebration – which is only weeks away – we’re sharing the top 10 reasons why we love masturbation Tampa!

It has known health benefits.

One of the health benefits of masturbation is the release of endorphins, which are the same chemicals released by your body following sex that make you feel so good. It’s also great exercise for your pelvic muscles, which can create better orgasms.

It’s a stress reliever.

No one can deny how much stress effects our daily lives, from the little things like meeting deadlines to dealing with family events and meeting personal goals. Help yourself stay calm by indulging in the stress-relieving benefits of masturbation Tampa.

It’s fun with a partner or alone.

Not only is mutual masturbation seriously underrated, but the ability to masturbate together or in front of each other is also a breakthrough when it comes to the comfort and intimacy of your relationship. There’s nothing quite like being confident enough to put on a sexy solo show live for your partner.

It just feels incredible.

Let’s face it, when you discover orgasms, you discover the power to experience pleasure unlike anything else in the world throughout your entire body at your own hands.

Masturbation Tampa leads to better sex.

The more you know about what you like, the better you can share with your partner what you want. So the better you are at turning yourself on, the better you can communicate to your partner how to turn you on – and vice versa – creating lasting, positive effects that will nurture your best sex ever.

With many types of toys come many types of pleasures.

From G-spot vibrators to anal toys and everything in-between, you can find a unique sex toy to offer the exact type of pleasure you crave. Many women love clitoral vibrators because they get right to the point, while realistic dildos offer an experience that may be more lifelike. With fetish toys, you can indulge in your S&M desires.

Practice makes perfect.

The educational component to the benefits of masturbation is vital. Your mind might know what turns it on, but your body often isn’t nearly as transparent. Experimenting with touches, sensations, and pressures will help you learn what does and doesn’t feel good to you.

It teaches you about more than just what feels good.

Masturbation Tampa can also help you connect with yourself on numerous levels. One of the benefits of it is that it gives you an opportunity to pay attention to yourself and your body, to better understand what it’s saying to you and why.

New technology provides new pleasures.

One reason to especially love masturbating today is that there are now more options than ever before in a technological sense. For example, the We-Vibe Couples 4 Plus, has remote control stimulation, so you can play from far, far away.

You can enjoy blended orgasms.

By enhancing your own solo skills, you can become more skilled at blended orgasms, which come from stimulating multiple erogenous zones at once. Practicing solo first also helps you achieve blended orgasms when you’re having sex with your partner.

The benefits of masturbation Tampa are quite obvious – whether your hand is your best friend or you have a favorite bullet or rabbit vibe. A healthy dose of masturbation can be as beneficial to your life as regular exercise and mental stimulation. Stop by the best adult store Tampa today and let our expert staff make some recommendations just for you!

 

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We are open for business!

The past week has been stressful for sure. What better way to relieve that stress than by treating yourself (and your partner) to something new and sexy?  Whether you’re in the mood to play together or alone, we have everything you need to bust through the stress.  Stop by today and we’ll be happy to help you choose!

 

 

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8 Things Every Woman Should Know Before Trying Kink Ladies, let your freak flag fly!

Kinky sex can be a bit intimidating because it includes everything from bondage to BDSM and role-play. Fortunately, you don’t have to jump into a life of sadomasochism to try out kink.  Stepping outside of your comfort zone in the bedroom can be difficult and, for women, sometimes even harder. After all, letting your sexual freak flag fly isn’t part of your average girlhood experience.

But, never fear – trying new things is natural to a person’s sexual development. We’re always growing and changing. You don’t reach the end of your sexual development unless you forget to keep going or you put an artificial limit on it.

So, if you’re new to kinky play and don’t know where to start, read our handy tips before your next sexual escapade.

  1. Kinky sex is different for everyone.  It’s a form of playing and is everything that falls outside of the confines of having sex simply to orgasm, which means it can take many different forms. Kink is an umbrella term that includes everything from sadomasochism (SM) to bondage, fantasy, sensation and toy play.  To bring it back down a notch, sometimes simply bringing a vibrator into your sex life with a partner can be kinky.
  2. Communication, trust and consent are key. Communication is key for any sexual activity, but it’s even more important when stepping outside of your comfort zone. You should always have a full conversation with your partner about what you are and aren’t comfortable with. If you don’t take care of your inhibitions or your worries beforehand, then you probably won’t have a very good experience. If you’re going to try this with your partner, you still have to communicate what your limits are and how you will express those limits.
  3. Make sure you set boundaries before you get started. If someone’s tying you up, you’ll probably want to be on the same page beforehand. Setting ground rules and boundaries (such as agreeing on a safe word) will be the difference between kink working and not working for you.
  4. Do your research. Get some sort of masturbation material and find out what your fantasies are. It will really guide you in the right direction of getting what you want and finding out what you need in order to get what you want. Talk to your friends. Talk to your partner. If you’re still not ready to talk about it, pick up a copy of 50 Shades Of Grey.
  5. Start out small. Most beginners aren’t going to dive into a 24/7 lifestyle of sadomasochism and that’s just fine. Start by buying a vibrator (if you don’t own one already). Talk to your partner about using sex toys together. Explore your own fantasies.
  6. For kink, sex toys are quite literally all around you.  A wooden spoon works very well as a paddle. We don’t suggest using scarves or neck ties as restraints because they’re slick and they can tighten more than it’s safe. A proper set of restraints is a really good idea.  As for that wooden spoon, striking somebody means you have to know a little bit about where it’s ok to strike someone, so, again, do your research.
  7. You probably won’t hit it out of the park on your first try, and that’s okay.  Like most other experiences, kinky takes practice. You’ll get better at it the more you do it.  The more communicating you do the better you’ll get at whatever you choose to try. And the more you practice this kind of sex play, the more you’ll learn about yourself and the better you’ll be at it. Don’t expect great things the very first time.
  8. Variety is the spice of life. Trying out new things is essential to a healthy and enjoyable sex life. You don’t have to become a full-blown dominatrix, but getting out of your comfort zone (in a safe and consensual way) is really important.  Stepping outside of any ruts or boxes you find yourself in just gives yourself a chance to find something new that you like.It’s summer…step out of your sexual comfort zone and let your kink flag fly, ladies!
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The Fascination with Restraints

While the sale of sex toys skyrocketed in the months following the release of 50 Shades of Grey, it was the huge boost in the sale of restraints and blindfolds that took the adult industry by surprise. Apparently there are a lot of people who are either into – or want to experiment with – bondage and restraints, both with and without discipline. It appears that the trilogy helped normalize a type of behavior that most people previously thought was too kinky to even consider.

So what actually qualifies as a restraint? The reality is that holding your partner down with the weight of your body, or physically grabbing their arms or hands, is a fairly common method of restraint. The next level of restraints may include use of a necktie, scarf or handcuffs. At a more advanced level there are restraints like rope, chain, leather apparatus, ball gags, masks and bondage tape.

So what makes restraints so exciting? Many adults find it liberating to hand over control to their partner. This exchange of power and surrendering of control can awaken and heighten the sensations for both the submissive person and the dominant one. While applying restraints is often used during foreplay, it doesn’t always lead to sex. In fact, simply seeing someone restrained can be sexually stimulating!

What should you do before engaging in restraint play? Unless you know that your partner really wants to do it, you should talk it through to determine acceptable boundaries before you begin and agree on a safe-word. If you’re new to experimenting with restraint play, you should begin slowly to gain trust.

So what happens after a sub (submissive party) has been restrained? There should be eagerness, anticipation and a little fear of the unknown, accompanied by some abandonment of inhibitions and an abundance of lust. If there is some role-play, either or both participants might be dressed in leather, latex, rubber, stockings or other fantasy wear. Often restraint is part of a sexual fantasy so if the atmosphere is right, the experience can be exhilarating and sexually rewarding for all.

Is there always discipline involved? Not always, but the combination of pleasure and pain can be very sensual. When a sub is restrained it’s often their buttocks that are the focus of attention during disciplining. Their size and makeup enables them to endure a lot of punishment with little pain afterwards. Buttocks are often struck with a hand, paddle, flogger, whip or cane. (Obviously pain thresholds should be predetermined to ensure boundaries are not crossed.)

Sex toys such as vibrators, dongs and clitoral stimulators are often used on someone who is restrained, and watching a sub squirm in anticipation can be truly captivating. Having a variety of sex toys and other props to use on a sub can be very seductive, especially since the sub doesn’t have control over what’s being used and when.

For a Dom (dominant party), the power they feel knowing that they can pleasure the sub how and when they want is one of the reasons they get a high from the sex using restraints.

Role-play and bringing sexual fantasies into play is a great way to ensure sex between couples doesn’t become mundane or boring. If what you do is consensual and all parties enjoy it, why not get your restraints on?