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Today is Sexual Happiness Day! Celebrate the right way!

Today is Sexual Happiness Day, a day dedicated to enhancing communication about sex…specifically, good sex. Having great sex is a right, not a privilege, and communication is the way to make sure that as many people as possible enjoy great sex.

One of the quickest, cheapest and easiest ways to improve your sex life is by incorporating lube into sex. It might not sound like a big deal, but it can heighten sensation more than you would ever imagine.

Some people think that using lube signifies a failure – as if you should be automatically lubricated. Those people are missing out.

The stipulation to lube being a huge helper is the type of lubricant you use. Putting something that’s not designed for your vagina, into your vagina, is a big mistake.

Obviously, there are a lot of things you shouldn’t use as lube (petrol, hot sauce, Mercury, almond butter) but we’ve rounded up the top nine things that you might consider using, but really shouldn’t.

  1. Vaseline: When we recommend using lubricants to our customers, they often ask why they can’t use Vaseline. Vaseline is designed for healing, as it creates a barrier over the skin to lock in moisture and encourage the skin’s healing process. This means that it does not get reabsorbed into the body, and it stays on the tissue of the vulva and the walls of the vagina. What’s more, petroleum jelly is insoluble in water, making it hard to clean off.
  2. KY Jelly: KY Jelly is a fairly well known brand of lubricant; however, it contains both parabens and glycerine, which can cause thrush. It also draws moisture out of the walls of the vagina rather than hydrating them and exacerbating vaginal dryness, not helping it. This can leave the body vulnerable to infection, so could actually increase your risk of catching an STI.
  3. Tingling or cooling lubricants: If you like lubes that give heat or cooling, don’t panic – they’re not totally out. But you do need to be careful. Often the tingling effect is caused by menthol or chili, which can be extremely damaging to the delicate tissue of the genitals. These lubricants can also contain all sorts of chemicals that could be detrimental to your sexual health.
  4. Coconut oil: We all know that coconut oil is amazing with a lot of uses, but lube is not one of them. In a similar way that Vaseline is designed for healing purposes, coconut oil has antiviral and antibacterial qualities that could upset the vaginal flora. It can also clog the pores, which could cause skin irritation for some people.
  5. Body lotions and hand creams: Some people might assume that because a product is moisturizing it can be used as a lubricant, but these products are not designed for internal use. They could affect the vagina’s pH and cause irritation, especially if they are perfumed products.
  6. Liquid soap or hand sanitizer: If you think that products are safe to put near your genitals because it has cleansing qualities, think again. Douching is incredibly harmful to the vagina’s pH balance, and soaps and sanitizers can cause burning sensations to the delicate skin of the penis and vulva.
  7. Bio Oil: Bio oil is great, really great, but as a lube. Bio oil is a special skincare oil that aims to improve the appearance of the skin, from fading scars and stretch marks to alleviating dryness. While it can hydrate the skin, it is not suitable as a lubricant as it is only designed for external use. It is also a perfumed product that could affect the pH of the vagina.
  8. Saliva: Some people choose to forgo using a lubricant and choose to use saliva instead as grabbing a bottle of lube from your bedside table or drawer can seem like a mood killer for some men and women. However, while saliva from oral sex can seem more sensual, your spittle can leave the skin feeling dry.

Visit the best adult store in Tampa today and celebrate Sexual Happiness Day the right way by stocking up on some of our best lubes!

Sexology 101

Need Help Choosing the Right Lube?

Vaginal lubrication often occurs naturally during sexual arousal. But women vary in how much lubrication they produce and the amount of lubrication they need for pleasurable sexual activity – a variation that is completely normal.

Diminished lubrication is very common and can be the result of hormonal changes in a woman’s body during breastfeeding, perimenopause and postmenopause, or caused by medications such as antihistamines, hormonal forms of birth control, chemotherapy and medications for ADHD and depression. Also, a woman may experience reduced lubrication if she is dehydrated or is not fully aroused.

Whether you’re having vaginal sex with a partner or masturbating on your own, adding lubrication can:

  • Decrease painful friction in the vagina and/or anus;
  • Boost sexual arousal by stimulating the flow of blood to the vulva, which encourages your body to create some of its own lube;
  • Lubricate the clitoris to add more sexual pleasure and provide an easier route to orgasm;
  • Change taste during oral sex;
  • Keep vaginal skin soft and help maintain elasticity of vaginal walls.

When it comes to choosing a lubricant, consider two things – your comfort and your safety. Comfort refers to your pleasure because the amount and staying power of the lubricant can make a difference in how good the sex feels, and whether or not the lubricant irritates your genitals. Safety refers to your health, as oil-based lubricants cannot be used with latex condoms because they can destroy the latex and cause condom failure.

  • Water-Based Lubricants with Glycerin: Some of the most commonly sold lubricants are water-based with synthetic glycerin, which produces a slightly sweet taste. Many flavored and warming lubricants contain glycerin. When water-based lubes begin to dry, it’s best to add water or saliva rather than just adding more lube, as the water makes it slippery again. These lubes are typically easy to find, low-cost, safe to use with latex condoms and do not stain fabric.
  • Water-Based Lubricants, Without Glycerin: If you experience recurring yeast infections, these are the lubricants to use. They can contain vegetable-derived glycerin, which does not trigger yeast infections. These lubes last longer than lubricants with glycerin, can reduce irritation to the genitals, are safe with latex condoms, do not stain fabric, are usually thicker and provide a cushion and are often recommended for anal play.
  • Silicone Lubricants: These typically last the longest of all and are especially recommended for women with chronic vaginal dryness or genital pain. Silicone lubricant is different from the silicone used in breast implants and is not considered dangerous; it cannot penetrate through the skin’s pores. Most silicone lubricants are hypoallergenic. They are safe with latex condoms, stay on underwater, are odorless and tasteless and can last three times as long as water-based lubricants.
  • Synthetic Oil-Based Lubricants: These take longer to clear out of your body than natural oils. They are great for external masturbation, low-cost and easily accessible.
  • Seaweed-Based Lubricants: Gaining in popularity, these lubes are not only vegan-friendly, but are also paraben- and glycerine-free. If other sex lubricants have given you any type of irritation – or you’re simply unsure about the ingredients in the formulation – give these a try. This type of lubricant feels natural, cool upon application then quickly warms to become indistinguishable from your own natural fluids. As it’s water based, you can enjoy these lubes not only for manual masturbation and during sex with your partner, but also with all your sex toys.

Visit us today to learn more about our complete line of oils and lubes. We’ll be happy to help you decide which is the best choice for you and/or your partner.