How To Use Ben Wa Balls They have been used in various forms by women throughout history.

Ben Wa balls — also referred to as love balls, smart balls, or Kegel balls — are weighted balls meant to be worn inside the vagina. They’re an ancient method used to train the pelvic muscles. They have been used in various forms by women throughout history. It’s believed they were originally created by Japanese women before they spread to China, India, Vietnam and then into Europe before becoming known worldwide.

They were traditionally made of two hollow brass balls, one of which was empty and the other containing either mercury or a smaller heavy metal ball. The empty ball was inserted first, all the way back to the cervix, followed by the second “loaded” ball until they make contact.

When the balls are in place, even slight movements of the hips or thighs will cause the contents of the loaded ball to move or roll producing a pleasant vibration. A common example of their use is to insert the balls as described above then gently rock in a rocking chair or a swing.

You can perform Kegels to help hold them in and to strengthen the pelvic floor muscles and improve the elasticity of the vagina. Ben Wa balls predate our more modern concept of Kegel exercises but many believe they were used historically to provide many of the same benefits that Kegel exercises aim to achieve.

Want to know how to do Kegel exercises the right way? Read our blog.

Inserting Ben Wa Balls

Inserting the balls is a relatively straightforward process, but it can vary a bit depending on what type of balls you’re using. To that end, here are some tips along with step-by-step instructions.

  1. Use lubrication on the balls to help them glide in.
  2. Lay down (if you haven’t done this before), then insert the ball (or balls) into the vagina while in a relaxed position.
  3. Hold the balls inside the vagina by tensing your leg muscles together and doing Kegel exercises.
  4. Once they’re in you can sit up or move around depending on your ability. Women with more experience can insert them without having to lay down and keep them in while moving around the house.

Quick Tips for Using Ben Wa Balls

  • It’s not uncommon to find women on the internet claiming to wear them in public, many of them probably do. If that sounds like something you’d be into then be sure to wear them at home until you’re very comfortable with them and can hold them in for a very long time.
  • Metal or glass balls can be more difficult for beginners to hold onto, so you might want to start with plastic or silicone Ben Wa balls.
  • It will help them slide in easier if you use lubrication, but keep in mind that the easier they go in the easier they’ll come out too. Find a good balance when it comes to how much lube you use.
  • Thoroughly wash the balls with warm soapy water before and after each use. If you’re using balls that are attached via a string or silicone coating, take the time to disassemble them as much as possible and thoroughly wash around the connections.
  • Don’t panic if you have trouble getting them out or if they get stuck. They can’t get lost in there so relax, add some more lube, move around or squat and bear down. They’ll come out.

Questions? Come by and let our expert staff answer your questions and show you our complete line of Ben Wa balls for your pleasure.

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4 Benefits from Using Sex Toys After Having a Baby From pelvic floor muscles to getting back in the swing of things with your body again, sex toys can be the solution to a number of worries.

Sex toys are obviously great for a number of reasons, from upping your masturbation game to promoting body confidence. And, it turns out that they can also be beneficial to people who’ve just given birth.

Love, fear, joy and fatigue are some of the things new parents are feeling in the weeks and months after having a baby. After all, you have just squeezed something the size of a watermelon out of your vagina, so it’s not hard to understand the complete rollercoaster of emotions that comes with the aftermath of pregnancy.

From pelvic floor muscles to getting back in the swing of things with your body again, sex toys can be the solution to a number of worries.

Sex toys can help you get to know your body again.

If you’re struggling with positive self-image and reconnecting with your body, easing yourself back in to feeling like a sexual being again with lubricants and bullet vibrators is a good place to start. A body wand can be used on a gentle setting with some vitamin E cream on stretch marks and bruising and help bring about circulation and healing to the area.

Sex toys can prepare your mind (and body) for sex with a partner again.

After having a child, things may feel different between you and your partner, plus, you’re full of hormones telling you to be happy one minute and sad the next. However, once your body is on the mend, you can focus on physically bonding with your partner again.

This doesn’t have to include penetrative sex; after all, some couples will wait a few months before attempting to have penetrative sex again. Instead, manual and oral sex and picking out toys together can help you and your partner bond sexually. Experimenting with how you respond to the different stimuli on different parts of your body will help you reconnect with your partner, both mentally and physically.

(Read:  How to Choose a Vibrator)

Sex toys can help reduce initial pain after childbirth.

While it’s not uncommon to experience pain during the first few attempts at sexual intercourse, beginning with a simple, bullet vibrator can help. Using it directly on your clitoris should help you get back into it.  Then progress to a slim vibrator to ease any initial pain. Using a vibrator can help to improve the tone and elasticity of the vaginal walls, improving sexual sensation for both yourself and your partner. (Read:  How to Use a Vibrator for the First Time)

Sex toys can help strengthen the vaginal walls and pelvic floor muscles. 

After childbirth, the vaginal and pelvic floor muscles can weaken, making experiencing an orgasm a little tricky or uncomfortable. Without any kind of pelvic floor training, this is likely to continue to be an issue. Sex toys can be used to keep the vaginal tissue flexible, preventing it from becoming too tight and promoting blood flow to the area to aid healing. (Read:  How to Do Kegel Exercises the Right Way)

You may already know what Ben Wa Balls are (if you’re a fan of the Fifty Shades of Grey series).  They are perfect for strengthening pelvic floor muscles; sex games aside.

The small, marbled-shaped balls are weighted to be held in place by your pelvic muscles. If your muscles are weak, the balls may fall out, but as you start to retrain your muscles, you will be able to hold them in longer, and this will result in stronger muscles.  (Read: Ultimate Guide to Ben Wa Balls)

Questions?  Read the answers to post-birth sex questions.

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11 Interesting Things You Probably Didn’t Know About the Vagina

The human body is complicated in that it can simultaneously perform an endless number of roles at once without us having to do more than respond to any cues it provides, such as hunger.

And while most women are aware of how amazing their female parts are doesn’t mean we know everything there is to know. Today we’re sharing some interesting facts that you should know about your lady parts.

  1. Orgasms can provide pain relief. Orgasms have proven to be effective at blocking pain, including that from menstrual cramps, headaches, childbirth, arthritis, and even surgery. When we orgasm the body releases the hormone oxytocin, which creates all kinds of feel good things in the brain.
  2. The vagina can expand by 200 percent during sex or childbirth. The shape of the vaginal canal makes it a “potential space” where it sort of collapses if there’s nothing going on in there. It has the ability to expand and stretch, but it does have its limits, which is why we can experience pain if a penis goes too deep and pokes at our cervix.
  3. You could actually lift weights with your vaginal muscles. You can strengthen your kegel muscles just like any other. Attaching something egg-shaped to a weight makes it possible to stick it inside, grip, and lift weights. Some companies sell balls you can stick in the vagina and then walk around to work on strengthening those muscles.
  4. Your clitoris has two times more nerve endings than a penis. The penis has about 4,000 nerve endings, while the clitoris alone has more like 8,000. And that’s not even taking into consideration the rest of the vaginal canal. When stimulated, the clitoris can actually affect 15,000 other nerve endings that are located nearby in the pelvis area.
  5. Like other body parts, the vagina can sag. Your labia can wrinkle and sag as you age and lose collagen in the body. But rest assured those changes won’t affect how sex feels. To keep the vagina strong try kegel exercises.
  6. Your vagina discharges more than a gram over an 8-hour period. Vaginal discharges come from a few different places including the walls of the vagina, the cervical mucus, uterine and tubal fluid, secretions that come from glands in the vulva, oil and sweat from the vulvar glands, cells from the walls of the vagina, and some healthy bacteria it uses to clean up.
  7. You can be allergic to semen. It’s difficult to be in a situation where your body starts rejecting semen after developing an allergy to it, but it is possible. Most women who develop this condition experience itching and swelling in the vagina after sex, but for some people it can literally be life-threatening.
  8. The g-spot is still a mystery. Believers of the g-spot think it exists a couple inches into the vaginal canal on the front wall of the vagina, and that it can be identified by the slight change in texture to the area. Other researchers say not so much. Either way, most of the nerve endings in the vagina are found within the first couple inches of the vagina so it makes sense to focus on that area.
  9. The vagina cleanses itself. The vagina was actually designed to keep itself clean, which it does with the help of those natural discharges. The vagina has specific plans in place to keep itself clean using healthy bacteria and a balanced pH level, which is why it’s a good idea to keep things away from it like soaps and perfumed products that can irritate it and disrupt the natural pH levels.
  10. Confidence in your vagina = better orgasms. Research has shown that women who are comfortable with how their vaginas look and function report having more satisfying orgasms. If you’re confident about what’s happening, you’ll be more relaxed and in your bed instead of your head, which is where you need to be to experience a great orgasm. 
  11. Orgasms improve with age. Research has shown that women tend to have better orgasms as they get older. One could assume this change occurs because women tend to know their bodies better and have more confidence as they mature, as well as just technically knowing more about how to make sex satisfying.

We’re all about orgasms and feeling good – why not stop by today and do your vagina a favor by letting us help you choose a brand new toy?

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Our Shame-Free Guide to Buying Sex Toys in Tampa The best adult store in Tampa has you covered!

In the post-sexual revolution world, you’d think a group of young, sexually active women wouldn’t be embarassed at the mention of using sex toys. Didn’t cultural phenomena like Sex and the City and 50 Shades of Grey shed the awkwardness and prepare us for this?

Sure, plenty of women have already tried sex toys (44 percent of women between the ages of 18 and 60, to be precise) but what about the silent, intrigued majority who don’t know where to start?

The first rule of shopping for sex toys in Tampa is to loosen up and enjoy the ride.

If tawdry, in-your-face fetish stores scare you off, rest easy that you can find a sex toy shop in Tampa such as ours that feels more like a high-end fashion boutique.

Many of our customers are looking for something to share with their partner such as the best-selling We-Vibe 4, a two-pronged vibrating sex toy that’s supposed to help with simultaneous orgasms. You can even sync it with your smart phone!

Obviously, there’s quite a bit to sift through, so here’s what you need to know.

If you’re curious about sex toys in Tampa, you need to get over your insecurities and fears.

Each person’s insecurities and fears about sex toys are unique. For some women, the idea that “it’s not natural” bogs them down when it comes to sex toys, only a living, breathing partner is supposed to make you orgasm. Others are embarrassed or worried that a high-powered sex toy will make them desensitized to the human touch, rendering them only able to achieve orgasm with a toy. Men, on the other hand, tend to be threatened: Don’t I satisfy you? Am I not a good enough lover that we need something else?

Men, don’t worry – a sex toy can’t cuddle or kiss or give compliments, but it can add orgasmic intensity for a woman by stimulating key erogenous zones that a man doesn’t always find or doesn’t always know exist, such as the U-spot, the G-spot or the the P-spot.

At the best adult store in Tampa, we find that vibrator beginners tend to get caught up in the mechanics of toys and whether they’ll get something wrong, so you might want to start with a small clitoral vibrator without any bells and whistles that can be easily stashed away.

The only way you will know what you like is if you start and experiment with your sex toys.

Simple sex toys, like blindfolds, can empower women and actually distract them from any hang-ups they may have with their bodies. It’s even better for the ladies to blindfold their men, because that gives women more confidence. Once they blindfold their lover, they can do things and say things and they become 10 times bolder than they’ve ever been. It’s very liberating!

It’s better than going on a bad date, and it’s safer than a one-night stand.

Once you’ve decided you’re willing to try sex toys in Tampa a go, let your turn-ons get you started.

Want to test the waters? Start with massage candles. Into the 50 Shades craze? Try a blindfold (or a ben wa ball if you’re adventurous). But a lot of women want to go straight to vibrators — perhaps the infamous “rabbit” episode of “Sex and the City” piqued their interest? Sex toys for men? Why not try a c-ring?

At some point, most women discover that they are more likely to orgasm from clitoral stimulation than from vaginal, so products with vibration focused on that specific areas have become very popular.

Next, think about how strong you want your vibrations. If it takes a while for you to get off with your hand or you need a shower massager, go for more powerful vibrators. You should also look for quality construction and body-safe materials, like silicone.

Then, throw any rational thinking aside and pick the one that tickles that sexy part of your imagination,” she said.

Going into an adult store in Tampa, rather than shopping online, is the best way to go.

Our expert female sales team can be invaluable in the quest for a sex toy, whether you’re alone or with a partner. It can be done online, but going to an adult store can be an adventure and something outside what couples typically do. In fact, shopping together makes for a great date night.

Couples often start out by experimenting with anything from vibrators to cock rings to basic S&M kits. Buying something really innovative that opens up conversation is probably better than just buying a dildo, which can be intimidating for the man and for the woman.

But whatever you decide to buy, our biggest piece of advice about buying sex toys in Tampa is to have fun, relax and don’t judge yourself. It may be a bit awkward, but there’s absolutely no reason to be ashamed.




Celebrate a Sexy Summer With These New Positions! You can thank us later!

Celebrate a Sexy Summer With These New Positions!

Today we’re celebrating the upcoming first day of summer! Whether by bringing in new sex toys, additional partners, or engaging in fun and games, what better way to welcome in a sexy summer than by trying out some new positions in the bedroom?

Take a Field Day: Remember the wheelbarrow races you used to do in elementary school? Think of this position as the grown-up version.

The receiving partner should get on the ground on their hands and knees. Then, the penetrating partner picks them up by the ankles, entering them from behind. Try thrusting so hard that your partner has to walk across the floor on their hands! You can add additional props, like a plate of whipped cream or fresh fruit to indulge in when you reach the other side.

Alternatively, if you’re bringing additional partners into your bedroom, you can try timing one another in couple’s races to see who has the greatest athletic strength.

Janus: Named after the two-headed Roman god of beginnings and endings, this position is a great way for you and your partner to jazz up your routine with some mild-to-moderate ass play.

You and your partner should lie on your sides facing one another, in opposite directions. The receiving partner then wraps their legs around the penetrating partner’s pelvis, resting their feet on their partner’s buttocks.

If you’re the receiving partner, try massaging your partner’s ass with your feet to give them additional stimulation! And if you’re the one who’s thrusting, you should enter your partner from this position. Don’t forget to take advantage of that voluptuous rump in your face!

Give your partner added pleasure by engaging in anal, using a butt plug, or entering their back-end with your fingers. If your partner isn’t down with that, you can still add to the good feels by rubbing ice or warm lotion on their skin.

Pick Up Sticks: This one is for those of us who have a varied sex toy collection.

Begin by gathering together all of your dildos, wands, vibrators, and beads. As always, before bringing toys into the bedroom, make sure they’re clean. You can wash them off with just a light soap and water, but investing in a good sex toy cleaner is always a good idea.

Toss the clean toys on the bed. Then, you and your partner should try to pick them up using whatever orifices you can. You can add bonus points for using butts or vaginas, and as an added challenge, you can lube up the toys first. Take turns using the different toys to go to town on one another.

The Masseuse: This sex act was designed with people who have vaginas in mind, but it should be pretty easy to modify for ass play, too!

If you’re in a super generous mood, you might want to begin by giving your partner a full-body massage, working down to their nether regions gradually.

Turn your partner on her back and massage the outer edges of her labia with both fingers.

When she’s good and ready, move to her clitoris, flicking it and circling it with your fingers. Don’t bring her to orgasm yet! When she’s just about ready to come, enter her vagina with your fingers. Press on each side of her vagina, moving in a clockwise position. Finally, hook your fingers, and press on her G-spot until she comes.

If you want to have fun yourself, try pleasuring your partner while you’re also having fun with an egg or an anal vibrator.

Sit and Reach: This position uses rope as an accessory, which both gets you and your partner ready to play with some light bondage, and gives you lots of opportunity for experimentation!

Begin by sitting up with your legs in a V-position. Bend at your knees, and rest your arms alongside the lower half of your leg. Using soft rope, have your partner bind your arms to your legs. Try tying just above the ankles and just below the knees.

From this position, you can be entered from the front with your legs on the ground, or you can rock backwards on your rear so your legs are held up by your arms.

There are lots of other positions that you can invent for yourself with this one as you roll around, too.

With a little imagination and these tips, you’re surely off to a sexy summer! You can thank us later!

How to Find Your G-Spot

Research reveals that all women have that mysterious little area capable of producing insane orgasms. Even if you haven’t personally experienced its power, you’ve no doubt heard about the G-spot, which is an erogenous zone located inside the vagina that can produce some pretty phenomenal sensations.

But it can also produce some serious frustration because for many women, it can be very difficult to find.

What Exactly is a G-Spot?

There’s some disagreement about the size of the G-spot, as it may range from a ¼” to 2” to 3” along the upper wall of your vagina, about 1” or 2” past your vaginal opening. Located beneath it is highly sensitive tissue that when touched the right way, triggers feelings of sexual euphoria. G-spot sensations have been described by some women as more intense than those they feel via clitoral stimulation — more of a warm, flushing feeling throughout their entire body.

How to Locate Your G-Spot

Lie back and relax, as your first attempt to locate your G-spot can take patience. Start by spreading your legs and bending your knees, so your vagina is open and accessible. With your palm facing up, insert two fingers inside, pressing your fingertips against the center of the upper vaginal wall.

You’re looking for a spongy, puckered, or slightly ridged area, like the roof of your mouth. If after several minutes you haven’t found it, think of a sexual fantasy because when you are aroused, the G-spot fills with fluid, making it swell and become larger. You’ll have an easier time locating it if you are sexually excited.

Continue to experiment on your own with different speeds and pressures. Of course, don’t be surprised if you find yourself closer and closer to orgasm. There’s no reason to hold back — let yourself experience a super-intense G-spot orgasm on your own before you show your partner how to take you there.

Guiding Your Partner To Your G-spot

Have your partner gently slip a finger or two inside your vagina, and then softly feel along your upper vaginal wall. If your partner is having trouble finding the right spot, encourage him or her to kiss you or touch your nipples or outer vaginal zone; remember that the more aroused you are, the more your G-spot will stand out, making it easier to locate.

Also consider placing a few pillows under your butt, which will open your vagina more, providing greater access. Once it’s found, ask your partner to massage it in slow, gentle circles. Try different caresses, such as figure eights or a rapid succession of pulses. The G-spot can withstand a lot of pressure, so you may want to ask your partner to press harder.

One G-spot touch technique to try is tapping. Have your partner use just the tip of his or her finger to tap firmly and repeatedly on your G-spot. There’s a biological reason for why this feels so great – the most intense moments of touch along any body part are usually the first few seconds. By tapping, it’s as if your partner is touching your G-spot for the first time over and over again, building waves of sensation that can culminate in a mind-blowing climax.

Practice Makes Perfect

Practice makes perfect, and that’s especially true when it comes to your G-spot. The more you stimulate it and include it in your sexual repertoire, the easier it’ll be to achieve G-spot nirvana.

Besides having more sex, you can deepen the sensations you feel by regularly doing Kegel exercises. Repeatedly doing Kegels will strengthen your vaginal muscles, giving you a tighter grip during intercourse that helps add more pressure to your G-spot. (Read more about them here.)

If you would like more information regarding how to locate your G-spot Tampa residents rely on the all-female expert staff at Everything Sexy 4Play. Take a look at our video and then stop by – we’ll be happy to answer any questions you may have and show you our fabulous supply of G-spot vibrators. (Read more regarding how to use them here.)

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Think You Know About Female Orgasms?

Female orgasms are a beautiful and magical thing – but not every woman is having them, and that’s just not right. Whether it’s because they’ve never felt confident enough to express what works for them, or they’ve never taken the time to figure out what their own bodies need, too many women are faking orgasms. This is not good for women, but it’s also not good for their partners who may think they’ve been blowing her mind when they’re really not.

In the spirit of promoting female orgasms for every woman out there, we’ve put together a little guide on female orgasms. From the adult sex toys that can help you get there, we have the scoop on all things orgasmic.

  1. Never underestimate the importance of lube. It’s a fact: moisture makes female orgasms easier to achieve. If your own body doesn’t produce enough, and this can definitely be the case no matter how turned on you are, some lubricant will do the trick. Find the kind that works best for you, and keep a bottle in your nightstand drawer.
  1. Don’t forget to breathe. Take a tip from the world of yoga and remember to breathe when you’re about to climax. Experts suggest your pleasure will be deeper and more intense if you thoroughly inhale and exhale during sex.
  1. Remember your Kegels. Doing Kegels (squeezing and releasing the muscle of the pelvic floor) is an incredibly simple exercise any woman can do at any time in order to gain better control of her orgasms. The more you practice, the better you will get. Squeeze during sex for intensified female orgasms. Kegel exercisers and Ben Wa balls are another way to work these muscles.
  1. Focus on your whole body. An orgasm is a full-body experience, so take another tip from those who practice yoga and focus on how you feel everywhere. When you feel the energy of being with your partner coursing all throughout you, you begin to open yourself up to the possibility of greater intensity. Let yourself go, and the climax will surely follow.

The clitoris is typically the key to female orgasms, and this type of orgasm is sure to send most women flying sky high to the moon. But don’t worry if it doesn’t for you! Every woman is different, every body is different, and what works for some people isn’t always guaranteed to work for others.

Get in touch with your body, express your desires to your partner, and orgasms are sure to come. That being said, the chance of orgasm increases if you don’t head straight to the clitoris. Touch and caress all around the area, and absolutely do not forego oral. To make things a little more interesting, you can bring in adult sex toys.

Practice with G-spot vibrators and vaginal orgasms will come quickly. First things first: you must locate the spongy area inside the vagina, along the front wall. Once you’re become familiar with the G-spot, direct your partner to aim his thrusts there.  Deeper and more targeted thrusting will better stimulate the G-spot, making the likelihood of female orgasms far higher.

So…how much did you really know about female orgasms?



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How Kegel Exercises Can Enhance Your Sex Life!

When it comes to Kegel exercises, benefits for women are typically pointed out. And while it’s true that they’re a specific benefit to women in many ways, these exercises can benefit men as well. Today we’re discussing what to do, how to do it, and the sex toys that can help you try out these uniquely beneficial exercises!

More Intense Orgasms: While it may appear obvious that Kegel exercises would result in stronger orgasms, no decisive studies have been conducted to prove the connection. But people who perform Kegel exercises regularly report stronger and more intense orgasms, as well as an increased probability of multiple orgasms.

Kegels enhance and promote blood circulation in the vaginal region, so they also increase lubrication and the potential for arousal. Some people can even experience hands-free orgasms by contracting these muscles! In addition, Kegel exercises benefits include the fact that strengthened pelvic muscles can help some women experience vaginal orgasms, as well as increase clitoral stimulation.

Benefits For Men: What most people don’t realize is that stronger pelvic muscles are another way for men to stay on top of their sexual health. Kegel exercises benefits for men include setting themselves up for both good prostate health and better and stronger erections and orgasms.

Kegel exercises for men are quite similar to Kegels for women. The first step is to find the kegel muscle; the easiest way for a man to do this is to stop peeing midstream and place two fingers behind his testicles. When he resumes peeing, he’ll feel his PC muscle contract.

Tighten the muscle, hold it for 3 seconds, and then relax for 3. That’s it! Try 20 simple Kegel exercises a day to start building pelvic muscle strength. Try them while sitting, standing, or even walking.

Kegel Foreplay Moves: Following are two of the most popular ones.

The Tent-Pitcher: This move gives the man an opportunity to show off, which means he’s sure to love it. Have a little fun together getting him hard, and then place a small piece of cloth over his penis. He should move it up and down 5-10 times for one rep.

The Mini-Thrust: To be performed during sex, this move is for both of you. Simply take turns doing Kegel exercises while one partner is inside the other. One stays still while the other contracts, which will provide the still partner with a sexy little thrust. Repeat until you can’t stand it any longer and feel the buildup in the intensity of the subsequent orgasms!

Exercise and Play With Kegel Toys: While Kegel exercisers and massagers are typically designed for women, men can certainly appreciate their use – and incorporate them into foreplay. Get inspired with some of our most popular Kegel products.

Geisha balls: The usage of Geisha balls is simple and clear. There are 4 balls in the package, every ball having different weight, including the lightest and the heaviest balls on the market. The idea of training is to start with the lightest balls and then gradually increase the weight.

Weighted Pleasure System: When using a vibrator is just not adventurous enough, add a little flavor to your sexual encounters with the L’Amour Premium Weighted Pleasure System. This fun little gadget features two connected balls that are made for easy access. The balls are rounded with a raised lip around the sides for extra sensation, and can be activated to vibrate and move around. No one has to know that you you’re even using them!

Get in the mood with erotic lingerie and adult sex toys whenever the urge strikes and put those Kegel muscles to work!



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Sex Toys: Not Just for Solo Fun!

Often thought of as a solo activity, the use of sex toys by couples can enhance their sexual relationship. Using a sex toy is a great way to spice up your sexual relationship while boosting intimacy. There are multiple benefits of using sex toys, including keeping your Kegel muscles toned and your libido amped up.

Why should you use a sex toy?

The benefits of using a sex toy are vast. Having great sex can promote health and wellbeing by elevating your mood and making you feel good physically. Using a sex toy can spice up a fading sex life and bring some fun into your life. A sex toy not only makes you feel great but it improves your circulation and the release of the “feel good factors” during orgasm.

Sex toys can also increase the tone and elasticity of the vaginal walls and stimulate the release of vaginal secretions that can decline as we get older, as a result of bad health or side effects of medication.

Using a sex toy can bring great pleasure to both partners even if full intercourse is not possible. Many couples are unable to have sex due to physical or emotional problems and using a sex toy may help.

Will it ruin my normal sex life?

When used with your partner, sex toys provide couples with the opportunity to fully express themselves sexually and enhance their sexual pleasure, especially when using them to stimulate their partner.

Couples can use sex toys to boost their sexual satisfaction and add variety into their sexual relationship, which may have become boring. Having sex with the same person for many years can become a bit stale but a sex toy can help to make sexual intercourse more fun, pleasurable and exciting again. Becoming aroused with the help of a sex toy is no different than any other way and may increase your pleasure.

I want to but I’m too embarrassed.

Since the famous rabbit vibrator was mentioned on “Sex and the City” it has become acceptable to own sex toys. According to recent statistics, nearly 60% of women own a sex toy and 75% of those who do are married. You may be surprised at how many of your friends own a toy, as it’s normally the quiet ones!

My partner isn’t on board.

If your partner isn’t keen on you using a sex toy, use it on your own or try to encourage them that using a sex toy is not replacing them but improving what you already share. It can increase trust and closeness between you and your partner.

I don’t want to scare my partner away.

Some men feel that they won’t match up to what a sex toy can do and can therefore be replaced by a vibrator. This couldn’t be more wrong. Using sex toys together enhances sexual pleasure for both people involved.

There is no single sex toy that is right for everyone. We all have different sexual needs and experimenting with a variety of products will enable you to find the perfect toys for you. There are many sex toys available for both sexes that provide enormous pleasure. If you have a bad experience with one toy, don’t give up, just try something else. You may find that once you have persuaded your partner to try a sex toy, they will be hooked and will want to try more.

Now stop worrying that using a sex toy can ruin your sex life, because it will only enhance your pleasure and promote good sexual health.

Sexology 101

The Fascination with Restraints

While the sale of sex toys skyrocketed in the months following the release of 50 Shades of Grey, it was the huge boost in the sale of restraints and blindfolds that took the adult industry by surprise. Apparently there are a lot of people who are either into – or want to experiment with – bondage and restraints, both with and without discipline. It appears that the trilogy helped normalize a type of behavior that most people previously thought was too kinky to even consider.

So what actually qualifies as a restraint? The reality is that holding your partner down with the weight of your body, or physically grabbing their arms or hands, is a fairly common method of restraint. The next level of restraints may include use of a necktie, scarf or handcuffs. At a more advanced level there are restraints like rope, chain, leather apparatus, ball gags, masks and bondage tape.

So what makes restraints so exciting? Many adults find it liberating to hand over control to their partner. This exchange of power and surrendering of control can awaken and heighten the sensations for both the submissive person and the dominant one. While applying restraints is often used during foreplay, it doesn’t always lead to sex. In fact, simply seeing someone restrained can be sexually stimulating!

What should you do before engaging in restraint play? Unless you know that your partner really wants to do it, you should talk it through to determine acceptable boundaries before you begin and agree on a safe-word. If you’re new to experimenting with restraint play, you should begin slowly to gain trust.

So what happens after a sub (submissive party) has been restrained? There should be eagerness, anticipation and a little fear of the unknown, accompanied by some abandonment of inhibitions and an abundance of lust. If there is some role-play, either or both participants might be dressed in leather, latex, rubber, stockings or other fantasy wear. Often restraint is part of a sexual fantasy so if the atmosphere is right, the experience can be exhilarating and sexually rewarding for all.

Is there always discipline involved? Not always, but the combination of pleasure and pain can be very sensual. When a sub is restrained it’s often their buttocks that are the focus of attention during disciplining. Their size and makeup enables them to endure a lot of punishment with little pain afterwards. Buttocks are often struck with a hand, paddle, flogger, whip or cane. (Obviously pain thresholds should be predetermined to ensure boundaries are not crossed.)

Sex toys such as vibrators, dongs and clitoral stimulators are often used on someone who is restrained, and watching a sub squirm in anticipation can be truly captivating. Having a variety of sex toys and other props to use on a sub can be very seductive, especially since the sub doesn’t have control over what’s being used and when.

For a Dom (dominant party), the power they feel knowing that they can pleasure the sub how and when they want is one of the reasons they get a high from the sex using restraints.

Role-play and bringing sexual fantasies into play is a great way to ensure sex between couples doesn’t become mundane or boring. If what you do is consensual and all parties enjoy it, why not get your restraints on?