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What Adult Store Employees Want You To Know It Doesn't Have to be Intimidating!

If you’ve only ever visited an adult store for gag gifts or bachelorette party accessories, the thought of choosing some things for your own pleasure – and admitting it out loud – can be a bit intimidating. But once you get past the initial stage of opening up to the sales associate about the sexiest details about your life, it can feel very liberating.

Adult store employees are open-minded and ready to help you upgrade your sex life from blah to fabulous, all while dealing with the many misconceptions that come with the job.

Here are some things they want you to know.

Adult stores are a safe place to be yourself.

Unlike some retail stores that give off a one-size-fits-all vibe, adult stores are a judgement-free zone. Sometimes they find that women don’t feel comfortable expressing their interests, partly because they didn’t know what their interests were, or they were worried about looking promiscuous if they did. But there’s literally something for everyone, and if you don’t know what yours is, you can explore and ask questions without feeling pressured to buy.

Adult store employees are super qualified.

Working in an adult store is no different than working in other retail environments. Like any other sales job, they have to have certain credentials and are trained to work in the store. They just want to help people own their sexuality and feel comfortable with their bodies.

There’s no reason to feel ashamed or nervous.

Believe it or not, your fantasies are no different than those of others. Studies indicate that sexual interests that are usually considered taboo are actually normal.

Everyone – yes, everyone – needs lube.

Some female customers think that needing lube makes them less womanly, or they’re concerned that their male partner will feel inadequate if they need lube to get slippery for sex. And although there’s a common belief that a woman’s wetness depends on her level of arousal, there are plenty of things that can affect self-lubrication, including hormone fluctuations, pregnancy – even antihistamines and antidepressants. Even naturally wet women can reach orgasm faster with lube.

There’s one question they wish you wouldn’t ask.

While it’s okay to ask for recommendations, it’s not okay to ask an adult store employee what they love the most. Not only is it invasive, but the answer won’t help you determine which toy is right for you. Everyone is different and is turned on by different things.

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Our Best Masturbation Tips For Women However you masturbate, it's all normal!

Happy National Masturbation Month! We all know that there’s no “right” way to masturbate, and you’re not doing it wrong – it’s all normal. Whether you like to use your hands, pillows, running water, or toys – it’s all normal. Whether you do it once a week, once a day, or three times a day – it’s all normal. Today we’re sharing our top 13 masturbation tips for women.

Masturbation is actually good for you because it releases stress and anxiety. It also increases blood flow to the genitals, which is important because blood flow keeps the vagina healthy.

Plus, it’s super-good for your sex life in all sorts of ways. When a woman masturbates and has an orgasm, a powerful hormone that makes a woman want to bond more with her partner.

Whether you’re a beginner or an expert looking for more masturbation tips for women, this information will help take your masturbation to the next level.

Mirrors, Moods and Multitasking

Use a mirror. You need to know your own body, and that takes some investigating. Look on the internet at a clinical map of the female anatomy. Then get a mirror and take a look at your own body to get familiar with it.

Set the right mood. Tidy up, light some candles, draw a bath, and get into a blissed-out mindset. It’s hard to feel sexy if your room’s smothered in dirty laundry and yesterday’s food containers. Tidying your romantic setting can help you relax and tune in to your own pleasure.

Stop multitasking. The biggest threat to a pleasurable masturbation session is multitasking. Many women who are so used to multitasking between jobs and kids and partners and life often try to multitask during sex and masturbation. Be mindful and focus your mind.

Don’t shut down completely. You don’t have to completely turn off your mind to orgasm. Paying close attention to sensations and using your mind to focus on the pleasure can greatly enhance your orgasms.

Fantasize. Every woman has a fantasy, and it doesn’t have to be about you and your partner. It also doesn’t have to be about whips and chains or whatever the hot fantasy novels or porn movies are doing. No matter what your fantasy is, you don’t have to question your sexuality.

Don’t avoid penetration. Not all women like masturbation that involves penetration, but if you’re up for it, you can move your fingers in and out of the vagina to add more stimulation. You can also get a vibrator that allows for penetration.

Technique, Teasing, and Toys

Be generous with the lube. Lube is great for sex, so yep, it’s also great for masturbation. An important part of masturbating is how lubricated you are because it makes it more comfortable to stimulate your genitals.

Change your technique. If you always use your hands, try a pillow. If you’re always on your back, try turning over. There is no one position that works for everyone. You have to experiment to find what’s right for you.”

Tease yourself. Reaching orgasm while masturbating doesn’t mean you have to go at it full throttle. There’s a technique known as “edging,” that involves masturbating to build tension, then stopping just before you orgasm. It’s a great way to draw out the pleasure before the grand finale. 

Use sex toys. Most vibrators are designed for clitoral stimulation only and there are a lot of options on the market.

Do it more often. One study found that women masturbate at least once a week, but you deserve a second helping (or more). The more you masturbate, the more you’ll want to do it.

Think outside the clitoris. Combining stimulation from multiple regions (e.g. clitoris, vagina, cervix and nipple) can add some serious pleasure. Your body is a treasure trove of not-so-obvious pleasure spots. Let your hands wander to spots like your nipples or inner thighs, to see what really gets you going.

Enjoy the ride. One of our most important masturbation tips for women is to simply to appreciate the sensation and not set out with the sole intention of orgasm. Being in the experience is key.

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Voyeurism Fetish: What You Need to Know When It's Okay and When It's Not

A voyeurism fetish is a desire to watch other people doing things, usually sexual in nature. It’s a thrill and it provides a jolt of excitement.

Truth be told, there’s a little bit of a voyeur in all of us. For a true voyeur, one who receives sexual pleasure from watching others, this interest crosses over from plain intrigue in the activities of others into fetish territory.

For instance, while someone gets sexual pleasure from leather, spanking, feet, etc., someone with a voyeurism fetish gets aroused by watching other people have sex.

What is a voyeurism fetish, and why does it turn people on so much?

The appeal of voyeurism varies from person to person. The most common theory is that people can gain sexual satisfaction in witnessing something taboo or something they’re not supposed to be seeing.

For example, watching a couple have sex through a hole in the wall might be enough to make a voyeur have an orgasm. For others, it’s about shame, most commonly known as a cuckolding fantasy. In this fetish, voyeurs enjoy watching their partner have sex with someone else while being told they are worthless or not allowed to also engage in the sexual act.

If you think you have a voyeurism fetish, don’t beat yourself up about it – it’s very common sexual fantasy. We are all excited by different things, and as long as you’re not harming yourself or anyone else, it’s totally fine.

When A Voyeurism Fetish Is Okay

If you’re sexually aroused by voyeurism, there are ways you can express these desires in a healthy, legal way. For instance, if you and your partner decide to bring another person into your bedroom so that you can be a bystander, that’s fine.

If you want to live out a cuckolding fantasy and be caged or tied up while your partner engages in sexual activity with someone else, that’s okay. If you want to watch from another room and your partner and the other person you’ve brought into the scene are aware and okay with this situation, you’re also in the clear.

Voyeurism is acceptable as long as everyone involved is consenting to the fantasy. If you have been given the green light to be watching, there is nothing wrong with what you’re doing.

When Voyeurism Is Unacceptable

You’re crossing the line when the people you’re watching are not aware that you’re doing it. If there is no consent, the voyeurism is not okay. In fact, it is very, very wrong. If for any reason you want to watch people have sex without their consent, do not; you cannot violate the consent of others.

If you have a voyeurism fetish or any other type of fetish, and you want help choosing the best sex toys, fetish toys or any other adult products, stop by the best adult store Tampa today to see our complete selection of adult toysadult apparel (including a wide variety of lingerie and dancewear), adult gamesadult furniture, and more!

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Can Kinky Sex Actually Benefit Your Relationship? You might be surprised at the benefits!

If you’re like many people, when you think about BDSM you immediately picture whips and chains and strange people wearing masks in a dark basement. While the Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy has helped to bring BDSM into the mainstream, many people still maintain plenty of fallacies about it, and still associate kinky sex with perversion. 

Here are three possible benefits of incorporating kink into your relationships.

Better Communication

Partners who engage in some form of kinky sex tend to communicate better than those who don’t. And most people don’t discuss their sexual relationships very much until a problem occurs.

Prior to engaging in BDSM, each partner must be specific when talking about their likes and dislikes, limits and desires, especially when their session involves this elevated degree of trust. Using safe words to outline boundaries, and being clear on the difference between play time and everyday exchanges fortifies and improves communication.

Kinky Sex Increases Intimacy and Bonding

Some BDSM actions such as bondage and restraint contain physical risk build a high level of trust between partners. Taking part in a consensual adventure actually increases intimacy and closeness.

Also, building this level of intimacy and trust, and forming a healthy, secure BDSM environment takes time and energy. Investing in the relationship in this way may deter either partner from taking part in anything that might threaten the relationship, such as being unfaithful.

Less Anxiety and Stress

Studies have revealed that people who participate in kinky sex consistently exhibited lower levels of the stress hormone cortisol after bondage play. This may be due to the essential nature of kinky sex, where partners enjoy physical passion and excitement while letting go of judgement and anxiety. Also, it has been shown that the giving or receiving of intense sensation, can actually lessen anxiety.

Apparently the activity modifies blood flow in the brain, which often leads to an altered state of awareness similar to a runner’s high. Focusing a high degree of attention on the physical feelings of the present moment within the BDSM session may also shut down the DMT (Default Mode Network) in the brain, which is an area linked to elevated feelings of anxiety.

Though BDSM may not be offered in couples counseling, there could well be some benefit to adding a bit of kinky sex into your world. Intrigued yet? If you want help choosing fetish toys or any other adult products, stop by the best adult store Tampa today to see our complete selection of adult toysadult apparel (including a wide variety of lingerie and dancewear), adult gamesadult furniture, and more!

Enjoy a glass of complimentary wine or beer while our experts help you shop.

Read Kink and Fetish: What’s The Difference?

Read Dom Sub: 6 Sexy Ideas

Read 7 BDSM tips for TOTAL Beginners

Read 9 of the Most Common Sexual Fetishes

 

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Traveling With Sex Toys

The peak travel season is right around the corner and that means you and your partner probably have a trip planned. Whether you’re going across the city or across the world, bringing sex toys with you helps ensure you have great sex while you’re away. Traveling with sex toys can present some unique challenges, specifically how to pack them and what to do if your bag gets searched.

Following are some ways to make traveling with sex toys easier.

  1. Bring a toy that doesn’t look like a sex toy. If it gets removed, it’s less likely to draw attention.
  1. Prevent vibes from accidentally turning on. Always remove the batteries if your toys have them. If not, see if you can lock the toy. This means your toy won’t turn on even if it’s buttons get pushed. Check the toy’s instruction manual for directions how.
  1. Put your toys in a clear plastic bag. This way if someone inspects your carry-on OR checked suitcase, they don’t actually touch your toy.
  1. Don’t forget toy cleanser. Yes, even if you put the toy in a plastic bag, you still need to wash your toys before and after each use with toy cleaner.
  1. Remember that size matters. Anything more than 7” is considered baton- or club-like and isn’t allowed in your carry-on. Checking it is a better option but there is still a risk the toy will be confiscated. Unless you can’t live without it, leave your heavier and larger toys at home.
  1. Remember the 3-1-1 rule for liquids. Personal lubricant, toy cleanser, and other liquids or gels need to be in small containers (3 oz. or less) and then placed in a quart-sized plastic bag. If they’re any bigger, check them!

Other Rules for Traveling with Sex Toys 

The tips above are great for dildos, vibrators, and liquids. But what about other sex toys and accessories? When in doubt, check the TSA website or contact the TSA directly.

Definitely okay to carry-on:

  • Handcuffs;
  • Strap-on harnesses or other gear made of leather, fabric, buckles;

Gray Areas (might be a good idea to check):

  • Toys longer than 7”, especially ones made of hard or heavy materials such as glass, stone, or stainless steel;
  • Whips: Riding whips and riding crops are okay for carry-on but other whips must be checked;
  • Paddles & Floggers: ping-pong paddles are ok; anything bigger should get checked;

MUST check:

  • Objects with sharp edges or points;
  • Objects that are similar in size/shape/weight to clubs, bats, or batons.

Traveling with sex toys doesn’t have to be so hard. Yes, there’s a risk of embarrassment. But with at least half of the people in the country using sex toys, they’re common and not all that surprising. Take a deep breath, practice saying, “That’s my sex toy,” and focus on the fact that a fabulous getaway – complete with hotel sex – is right on the other side of the gate!

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Dom Sub: 6 Sexy Ideas Domination and submission are wide categories, and mean different things to different people.

We’re always hearing that we could be having better sex, a better orgasm or a better relationship. But how often do we hear how we can better understand our deepest desires and most embarrassing questions like those in a Dom sub relationship?

As a reminder, domination and submission are pretty wide categories, and mean different things to different people. Some of the games on this list might sound really hot; some may feel like they cross the line. Talk through each of these suggestions together and see which ones seem safe and sexy to the two of you.

Of course, don’t forget to discuss boundaries and safe words. You can’t play these types of games unless you and your partner are great communicators who are willing to talk about the ins and outs of sexual safety!

Dom Sub Tampa: Our Suggestions

  1. The Guessing Game. This is an incredibly hot game that can be adjusted for all different levels. The Dom blindfolds the sub or makes them promise to keep their eyes closed. Once the sub can’t see, the Dom collects a series of items to stimulate the sub’s body with (make sure to agree on the specific items beforehand, or at least agree on whether or not pain will be involved). As they’re being touched with each item, the sub has to guess what the item is. A correct guess might elicit a reward, while an incorrect one might earn a “punishment”.
  2. Sensory Deprivation. You can take any of your Dom/sub play to the next level by cutting off one or more of the sub’s senses at a time. The sub will feel even more at the mercy of their Dom, as when one sense is eliminated, the others get heightened. Try blindfolding the sub or have them wear earplugs or headphones, so they can’t hear any of the Dom’s movements.
  3. Clothes Control. An easy Dom/sub game to play is to allow the Dom to pick what the sub wears. You can limit it to a play session, or a specific day, or you can try longer periods of time. The Dom can choose sexy lingerie, accessories, role-playing outfits or demand that the sub be naked all day.
  4. Hidden Signs. It’s one thing for the Dom to exert influence over their sub within the confines of their own home, but another to take it out in public. Have the Dom pick something that the sub has to wear out and about. Some hot possibilities are a collar or harness that can be hidden under clothing. Or try a sex toy, like a pair of Ben-Wa balls.
  5. Surprise Demands. There are a million different ways to play this game, but the basic idea is that the Dom surprises their sub with a specific set of personal requirements that have to be fulfilled by the time the Dom gets home. The Dom can leave a list in a place where the sub will find it, or can send text or an email. The Dom can make it as simple or as elaborate as they please. It can even be set up like a treasure hunt, with specific clues to follow.
  6. Remote Domination. Long-distance lovers can get in on the Dom/sub action too, thanks to all of the Bluetooth-enabled sex toys flooding the market these days. The Dom can instruct the sub to insert the toy and wait until the Dom decides to turn it on. The Dom can tease their sub by only giving them little tastes of vibratory pleasure. The sub can also be given specific instructions not to orgasm, even as the Dom goes to town with the controls.

Ready to get started with a Dom Sub Relationship?

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10 Reasons We Love Masturbation Tampa

Did you know that May is National Masturbation Month? In order to get you ready for the celebration – which is only weeks away – we’re sharing the top 10 reasons why we love masturbation Tampa!

It has known health benefits.

One of the health benefits of masturbation is the release of endorphins, which are the same chemicals released by your body following sex that make you feel so good. It’s also great exercise for your pelvic muscles, which can create better orgasms.

It’s a stress reliever.

No one can deny how much stress effects our daily lives, from the little things like meeting deadlines to dealing with family events and meeting personal goals. Help yourself stay calm by indulging in the stress-relieving benefits of masturbation Tampa.

It’s fun with a partner or alone.

Not only is mutual masturbation seriously underrated, but the ability to masturbate together or in front of each other is also a breakthrough when it comes to the comfort and intimacy of your relationship. There’s nothing quite like being confident enough to put on a sexy solo show live for your partner.

It just feels incredible.

Let’s face it, when you discover orgasms, you discover the power to experience pleasure unlike anything else in the world throughout your entire body at your own hands.

Masturbation Tampa leads to better sex.

The more you know about what you like, the better you can share with your partner what you want. So the better you are at turning yourself on, the better you can communicate to your partner how to turn you on – and vice versa – creating lasting, positive effects that will nurture your best sex ever.

With many types of toys come many types of pleasures.

From G-spot vibrators to anal toys and everything in-between, you can find a unique sex toy to offer the exact type of pleasure you crave. Many women love clitoral vibrators because they get right to the point, while realistic dildos offer an experience that may be more lifelike. With fetish toys, you can indulge in your S&M desires.

Practice makes perfect.

The educational component to the benefits of masturbation is vital. Your mind might know what turns it on, but your body often isn’t nearly as transparent. Experimenting with touches, sensations, and pressures will help you learn what does and doesn’t feel good to you.

It teaches you about more than just what feels good.

Masturbation Tampa can also help you connect with yourself on numerous levels. One of the benefits of it is that it gives you an opportunity to pay attention to yourself and your body, to better understand what it’s saying to you and why.

New technology provides new pleasures.

One reason to especially love masturbating today is that there are now more options than ever before in a technological sense. For example, the We-Vibe Couples 4 Plus, has remote control stimulation, so you can play from far, far away.

You can enjoy blended orgasms.

By enhancing your own solo skills, you can become more skilled at blended orgasms, which come from stimulating multiple erogenous zones at once. Practicing solo first also helps you achieve blended orgasms when you’re having sex with your partner.

The benefits of masturbation Tampa are quite obvious – whether your hand is your best friend or you have a favorite bullet or rabbit vibe. A healthy dose of masturbation can be as beneficial to your life as regular exercise and mental stimulation. Stop by the best adult store Tampa today and let our expert staff make some recommendations just for you!

 

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Your Anal Sex Questions Answered!

Maybe you’ve always wanted to try it but feel nervous about taking the plunge. Or maybe anal is already part of your sex routine and you’re looking for tips to make it even hotter. Or maybe you’re just curious to know what backdoor sex is really like.

Whether you’re an anal virgin or a die-hard fan, you’ll want to keep reading because we’re answering the most common questions and offering some tips.

Isn’t it Kind of…Gross?

The biggest misconception about anal sex is that it’s disgusting and dirty. For some people, that can be true. But everyone should know anal sex can be an extremely erotic, exciting activity. If you’re willing to try it, you might find it an unexpectedly fun addition to your sexual repertoire.

But Does It Hurt?

Research suggests that pain is common, especially in the beginning. But with adequate relaxation and arousal, it should feel good for both parties. If you find insertion painful or difficult, stop and go back to the drawing board.

How Do I Get Started?

The most important thing is feeling comfortable—you can even wash beforehand if that will help. Then it’s all about starting slowly. You can begin with inserting a finger first and using lube to get comfortable with the pressure in your rectum.

Beginner’s Tip: Try Solo Play First

Your two sphincter muscles are not only essential to anal health but also to pleasure. These ring-like structures control what goes in and out of your butt, so you need to become familiar with their functioning and learn to exercise control over them.

Beginner’s Tip: Breathe Deeply

Holding your breath interferes with muscle relaxation, which is essential to anal sex. As you breathe deeply, your inner sphincter muscle will relax to facilitate penetration.

Beginner’s Tip: Use Lube

Most people prefer silicone-based lube for anal sex. But no matter what type you choose, lube is a non-negotiable when it comes to anal play.

Pro Tip: Double Your Pleasure

If you have a vagina and a clit, use them. Insert a toy into your vagina during anal in order to press against the little space along the lower/back wall of your vagina, between the cervix and the vaginal wall. Some women attribute orgasm from anal sex to this hot spot.

Pro Tip: Try the “Lap Dance” Position

The penetrative partner sits on a chair, and their partner stands over them as though they’re giving a lap dance. This not only provides a sexy view, but it also allows the standing partner to exercise total control.

Pro Tip: Incorporate Some Toys

If you really want to amp up the sensation, play with a sex accessory, like a vibrating penis ring.

No Matter What, Always Be Safe

The anus is sensitive and prone to tearing and infection, so be sure to practice safer sex with lube and condoms. It’s also important not to cross-contaminate – you never want to put an object in your bum and then back into your vagina.

If you’re not into anal sex, that’s okay too – you don’t have to create a sexual bucket list and cross off every item in order to enjoy a fulfilling sex life—you simply need to keep an open mind.

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Go Beyond the Bedroom for Scintillating Sex!

Almost everyone has a bucket list of the best places for spur-of-the-moment sexual experiences they are hoping to fulfill. Sometimes you just have to enjoy some spontaneity. Below we’re listing some of our favorite places for impulsive intimacy to get you started. Just be sure to have fun, be safe and most importantly, get your needs met!

In a (Parked) Car: Having sex while driving is a very unsafe act, which is also against the law, so it’s better to sex it up while parked in a safe – yet remote – location. This is one of the best options for spontaneous intimacy. Imagine you’re driving around and all you want to do is rip the clothes off your passenger. Pull over on the side of the road and go for it!

Going Down? If you’ve ever been thrown against an elevator wall, you know it’s extremely hot! The feeling of a private room that’s moving is quite a sensation! Just be sure to find a building that isn’t super busy so you can push the emergency button and not worry about getting caught.

In the Closet: An intimate experience in a closet can be really hot depending on the location of the closet. If you’re at a party and find a private hideaway, go rock each other’s worlds. There’s an exciting aspect to knowing you may get caught.

Meet Me in the Bathroom: Intimacy in a bathroom is on almost everyone’s bucket list for sexual escapades. Try a bathroom at a restaurant, a club, a friend’s party…any clean bathroom will do.

My Best Friend’s Wedding: This may sound cliché, but weddings are one of the biggest turn-ons for women. There’s typically an open bar, dancing and you’re looking your very best. This is a great opportunity for even the shiest girl in the room to have an out-of-the-box experience with her partner.

Get a Room: Sometimes it’s nice to change things up and rent a hotel room for a night with your partner. You don’t have to worry about making a mess, and there’s room service when hunger hits. Breakfast in bed is another excellent benefit.

Office: The next time you’re feeling a little frisky, why not surprise your lover at work? Doing it in an office might sound like something straight out of the movies, but it’s hot! If you don’t have a private office, find another room in the building that’s private for you and your partner.

Take a Ride in a Limo: Treat yourself and go for a hot ride in a fancy car! Why not reserve a limousine for your next date night and have scintillating sex in the back seat? Make sure you reserve a car with a privacy window, so you’re not giving your driver a show!

Laundry Room: The laundry room is usually the most boring room in the house, but it doesn’t have to be. The next time you and your partner have a spare moment together, get down and dirty on top of the washing machine (while it’s on the spin cycle for best results) for some super stimulating action.

Balcony or Deck: A balcony and/or a deck are both good places to get busy when the mood strikes you because they’re outdoors yet still somewhat private. You get the best of both worlds and you can quickly run to the kitchen or bedroom if you want to add some props into the mix!

Dressing Room: If your partner hates going shopping with you, make it more interesting! Get your partner in a room with a full-length mirror and have a quick session. Doing it in the dressing room is risky, so look for a room during non-peak hours in a store that does not have rules about two people in one dressing room.

You only live once so might as well live it up!

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Think You Know About Female Orgasms?

Female orgasms are a beautiful and magical thing – but not every woman is having them, and that’s just not right. Whether it’s because they’ve never felt confident enough to express what works for them, or they’ve never taken the time to figure out what their own bodies need, too many women are faking orgasms. This is not good for women, but it’s also not good for their partners who may think they’ve been blowing her mind when they’re really not.

In the spirit of promoting female orgasms for every woman out there, we’ve put together a little guide on female orgasms. From the adult sex toys that can help you get there, we have the scoop on all things orgasmic.

  1. Never underestimate the importance of lube. It’s a fact: moisture makes female orgasms easier to achieve. If your own body doesn’t produce enough, and this can definitely be the case no matter how turned on you are, some lubricant will do the trick. Find the kind that works best for you, and keep a bottle in your nightstand drawer.
  1. Don’t forget to breathe. Take a tip from the world of yoga and remember to breathe when you’re about to climax. Experts suggest your pleasure will be deeper and more intense if you thoroughly inhale and exhale during sex.
  1. Remember your Kegels. Doing Kegels (squeezing and releasing the muscle of the pelvic floor) is an incredibly simple exercise any woman can do at any time in order to gain better control of her orgasms. The more you practice, the better you will get. Squeeze during sex for intensified female orgasms. Kegel exercisers and Ben Wa balls are another way to work these muscles.
  1. Focus on your whole body. An orgasm is a full-body experience, so take another tip from those who practice yoga and focus on how you feel everywhere. When you feel the energy of being with your partner coursing all throughout you, you begin to open yourself up to the possibility of greater intensity. Let yourself go, and the climax will surely follow.

The clitoris is typically the key to female orgasms, and this type of orgasm is sure to send most women flying sky high to the moon. But don’t worry if it doesn’t for you! Every woman is different, every body is different, and what works for some people isn’t always guaranteed to work for others.

Get in touch with your body, express your desires to your partner, and orgasms are sure to come. That being said, the chance of orgasm increases if you don’t head straight to the clitoris. Touch and caress all around the area, and absolutely do not forego oral. To make things a little more interesting, you can bring in adult sex toys.

Practice with G-spot vibrators and vaginal orgasms will come quickly. First things first: you must locate the spongy area inside the vagina, along the front wall. Once you’re become familiar with the G-spot, direct your partner to aim his thrusts there.  Deeper and more targeted thrusting will better stimulate the G-spot, making the likelihood of female orgasms far higher.

So…how much did you really know about female orgasms?