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We are getting asked an increasing number of questions regarding <a href=’>Dom Sub Tampa relationships, so today we thought we’d share the most common ones.

Why do couples prefer Dom/sub relationships?

Dom Sub Tampa is one aspect of the wider category of BDSM (Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, and Sadomasochism), also referred to as kink. Some people are into all of the things listed under BDSM, and some only a couple of them. Dom Sub is generally distinguished from SM because it is more about power than about physical sensation.

Of course it is pretty common for sex and power to be combined in our culture. For example, a lot of romance fiction involves people being rescued from peril or being swept away by somebody more powerful, and a lot of people fantasize about having the power of being desirable to their partner.

What is involved in a Dom/sub relationship Tampa?

If somebody identifies as being in a Dom Sub relationship, they probably include power play in their sex life. People can identify as dominant, submissive, or switch, which means that they are sometimes dominant and sometimes submissive. Some people stick to the same roles each time they play, or they may assume different roles on different occasions.

For most people, being Dom Sub will be something that they only do some of the time but not always. Such scenes could involve any kind of switch of power. Some people have lifestyle or 24/7 arrangements, where one person always takes the dominant, and the other takes on the submissive role.

Why do so many people have misconceptions of Dom Sub Tampa?

The media portrayal of BDSM has tended to be very negative, often associating it with violence, danger, abuse, madness and criminality. Research has shown that people who are into BDSM are actually no different from others in terms of emotional wellbeing or upbringing.

Often the media focuses on the most extreme examples, such as very heavy and/or 24/7 Dom Sub arrangements, rather than the more common relationships where there are elements of Dom Sub.

How do couples go about beginning a Dom Sub relationship in Tampa?

A good idea for all people in relationships, whether or not they are interested in Dom Sub Tampa, is to communicate about what they like sexually early on, and more broadly about what roles they like to take in the relationship.

For example, one good activity is to create a list as a couple of all of the sexual practices that either of you is aware of, and then to go down it writing ‘yes’, ‘no’, or ‘maybe’ about whether it is something that interests you, and sharing your thoughts. It can also be good to share sexual fantasies or favorite images/stories and to talk about whether (and, if so, how) they might be incorporated into your sex life.

It is very important that people only do things that they really want to try (rather than feeling pressured into certain activities) and that it is accepted that there will likely to be areas that aren’t compatible as well as those that are.

Some people have a Dom Sub relationship outside of an existing relationship – how can this affect a relationship?

Although it isn’t always out in the open, many couples have arrangements where they are open to some extent, such as open relationships, swinging, and ‘don’t ask don’t tell’ agreements.

Having different sexual desires is one reason why some couples open up their relationship to one or both of them being sexual with another person. If this desire is communicated clearly, kindly and thoughtfully, it can work perfectly well.

In regards to the hit book 50 Shades of Grey, many husbands have bought this for their wives and girlfriends – does it help?

One of the good things about 50 Shades of Grey is that it has opened up this kind of conversation for many people. However, it is important not to assume that the only form of BDSM is the one described in the book. In a heterosexual couple it may well be that the woman is more dominant, for example, or that both people switch roles, and the things that they enjoy may well be different to the ones which Ana and Christian engage in.

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