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Want To Know How To Spice Up Your Sex Life INSTANTLY? In just 5 easy steps!

If you’re like most couples, maintaining the spark in your relationship can be challenging at times.  And after a while, your sexual routine can get a little stale. Luckily, there are plenty of easy ways you can spice up your sex life.

Here are five (somewhat) kinky things to help get you out of your sexual slump.

Use Role Play to Spice Up Your Sex Life

If you’re cautious about switching up your bedroom routine, role playing could be right for you. By allowing you to adopt a new persona, role play can provide a boost to your confidence.

For instance, if you’ve always fantasized about sexy nurses and hunky fireman, or just enjoy amateur dramatics, this could be the one for you.

Roleplay is a great way of acting out sexual fantasies and spice things up a bit, especially in long – term relationships where you have been having sex with the same person for a long time. You could role play meeting each other for the first time again, which will surely reignite the spark.

Try Pegging to Spice Up Your Sex Life

While some couples may be uneasy about trying this newly-popular sex trend, it is becoming more popular. Pegging is when a woman penetrates a man, usually with a strap on or other kind of dildo.

While this may seem out of your comfort zone, it can really help to heighten your sexual pleasure. The only way to a man’s P-spot is through the anal door, so if you’re game to a bit of anal play this can be a great way of achieving some mind-blowing orgasms. Keep in mind that this is definitely a step-up from exploring with a finger, so make sure you take things slow.

Read: How to Use a Strap-On.

Read: How to Have Anal Sex That Doesn’t Hurt.

Sex Toys Can Spice Up Your Sex Life

For some people it can be intimidating to bring sex toys into your relationship because they worry that their partner will grow too fond of the toys to be able to orgasm without them. But in reality, they’re a great way to experiment with different sensations, especially cock rings and vibrators, both of which are great for mutual pleasure.

Watch:  How to Introduce Sex Toys Into The Bedroom.

Read: How to Use C-Rings.

BDSM

The fever generated by Fifty Shades is not slowing down. If your bedroom habits are getting dull, you can always include a bit of bondage. If you feel a bit hesitant about it, you can get a taste of domination and submission by changing who is in control during sex.

There are different levels of BDSM and it can simply refer to the power exchange between two people. For example, if you’ve always been the submissive in the bedroom, try some role reversal and become the dominator, to mix things up a bit.

Read: How to Introduce Kink Into Your Relationship.

Read: 7 BDSM Tips for Total Beginners.

Try Cuckolding to Spice Up Your Sex Life

Open relationships aren’t for everyone, but they can be a lot of fun. A popular trend is cuckolding, during which a man watches his partner have sex with another man, but it’s not for jealous types.

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Dos And Don’ts When Visiting An Adult Store Here's a guide to the proper store etiquette when shopping for pleasure products.

We find that for a lot of people, the idea of going to a store and talking to a person one-on-one about their sex life is intimidating. However, the advantage of visiting our adult store rather than shopping online is that not only do you get to see and compare the products firsthand, but you also get expert knowledge from experienced salespeople.

Here’s a guide to the proper store etiquette when shopping for pleasure products.

Learn about your (and your partner’s) body before you come in.

When shopping for others, whether it’s a partner or a bachelorette, get a feel for their sexual preferences and maybe even fantasies. Don’t assume. For example, most women need clitoral stimulation in order to achieve orgasm, so we  might recommend a clitoral/external stimulator over the standard dildo or vibrator. A good place to start is to educate yourself about the male and female erogenous zones. When you get to the store, a salesperson can provide product suggestions.

Learn from the educated salespeople at the adult store.

Don’t go to a adult store where the employees are simply looking for a paycheck. Sex toys have actual science and complicated technology behind them (material, power, cleanliness, etc.), not to mention history. You want to learn these things from experts. (Read: How to Clean and Maintain Your Sex Toys)

Sex toys can be costly.

Adult stores are typically locally-owned. We are aware that you can find many of our adult products, especially high-end ones, online for less. But we urge you to shop local.  There are plenty of other adult toys under $100 that are better than luxury brands – enough factors and exceptions play in that it’s important to seek professional advice.

Ask a lot of questions when visiting an adult store.

There is no such thing as a stupid question – just be appropriate and respectful. Don’t ask, “You stick it up WHERE?!” Try instead, “How is this toy used?” Ultimately we are trained retail workers and want to answer any questions you have.

Don’t ask what’s “best.”

There is no such thing as the “best” toy because what works for some people won’t for others. Pretty much everything regarding sexual pleasure is personal; find out what feels good for you and work with that.

Don’t ask the salesperson at the adult store what their favorite is.

This is still a retail shop; just because we’re selling pleasure products doesn’t mean we’ve tried all, some, or any of them. We will volunteer the information ourselves if we feel comfortable enough doing so.

Don’t be ashamed to visit an adult store.

People are becoming more open to talking about and enjoying sex. It is perfectly okay for people to enjoy sex, either alone or with another person. Further, sex toys are not just a “chick thing;” there are plenty of toys designed for men.

Sex is fun. Don’t let social norms prevent you from being open to or trying new things. Come by and let our expert staff answer your questions and show you our complete line of adult products for your pleasure. Stop by the best adult store today to see our complete selection of adult toysadult apparel (including a wide variety of lingerie and dancewear), adult gamesadult furniture, and more!

 

 

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13 Tips to Lessen the Gender Orgasm Gap Today we're talking about the gender orgasm gap - the difference between men and women's sexual satisfaction, and a struggle that many of us know all too well.

If your sexual partner typically crosses the finish line while you’re still running a race with no end in sight, it can be frustrating. And, for an alarming number of heterosexual women, it’s the infuriating reality of sex. Today we’re talking about the gender orgasm gap.  This is the difference between men and women’s sexual satisfaction, and a struggle that many of us know all too well.

It appears that penetrative sex alone simply doesn’t cut it for most women, and that women need oral sex and clitoral stimulation if they’re going to orgasm.  The reasons for the orgasm gap are multi-faceted, and some of them will take a long time to remedy. Following are some tips that will hopefully bring you a little closer to that coveted finish line.

Tips to Bridge the Gender Orgasm Gap: Faking, Masturbation and Arousal

1. Don’t Fake It: Faking your orgasm can cause a miscommunication between you and your sexual partner. Orgasm tells a partner that whatever you did together gets you off. So they’re often going to try and repeat those things to get the same result.

2. Masturbate Together: Couples should masturbate together so they can see how each person touches themselves. Women masturbate very differently than men do so they can teach each other.  (Read: 8 Masturbation Tips.)

3. Build Arousal Slowly: Slow down – no touching the vagina until you are really turned on. Your labia should be plump and erect just like the penis when you are aroused.  Stay in foreplay for as long as possible to build arousal slowly.

Tips to Bridge the Gender Orgasm Gap: Keep it In, What Gets You Off Alone And A Learning Curve

4. Stay In: In and out friction is what’s pleasurable for the man, but this action isn’t conducive to the level of clitoral stimulation women need. What’s often much more pleasurable for the woman is his penis staying inside so that the clitoris stays in contact with the area above the penis.

5. Think About What Gets You Off Alone: We know what makes us come when we’re going solo. Whatever that is, bring as much of it into sex with partners as you can, whether that’s bringing the fantasies in your head, or showing them how to do what you like.

6. Treat This as a Learning Curve: Men need to know that until they have the map to their partner’s pleasure it’s going to be a voyage of discovery. This takes time, patience, love, respect, and placing their partner’s pleasure and orgasm as their primary goal.

Tips to Bridge the Gender Orgasm Gap: Getting on Top, Experimenting and Talking

7. Get On Top: When it comes to positions for penetrative sex, experts agree that getting on top will help get you off because it provides open access for clitoral stimulation. It also gives the woman the freedom to have more control of the movements so she can get into a rhythm that feels good.

8. Experiment With Positions:  Getting on top isn’t the be all and end all, as doggy style can be a good position for clitoral stimulation as well. Anything that can give direct stimulation to the clitoris works.

9. Talk About Sex Outside The Bedroom: Start by doing more talking about sex when you’re not actually engaging in sex. That can help build trust and comfort and practice that makes doing it during easier.

Tips to Bridge the Gender Orgasm Gap: Talk, Toys and Oral

10. Tell Your Partner When Something Feels Good: We know that faking your orgasm will give your partner the wrong message about what’s working for you. If you feel comfortable, voice it when things do feel good and show them what you like when you can.

11. Add Toys To The Equation: If you use a vibrator on your own, then it’s worth considering using it when you’re having sex with your partner. The idea that toys are just for when you’re alone is silly. Read: Introducing toys into the relationship.

12. Plan To Give Oral: The majority of women won’t orgasm from intercourse alone and that’s simply down to biology. The clitoris is full of nerve endings, while only the outer third of the vagina tends to have responsive nerves.

13.  Don’t Worry: Try not to get stressed if you don’t come. There can be outside factors that have a major effect on a woman’s ability to have an orgasm. In these situations, consider seeking advice from a medical professional or trained sex counsellor.

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7 BDSM Tips For TOTAL Beginners Today we're sharing 7 BDSM tips to get you started.

Many people are curious about the erotic power BDSM, but don’t feel ready to invest in a full-scale dungeon just yet. The good news is that you can add BDSM moves to your sex life without spending a fortune on accessories or mastering a dozen types of different rope ties. Today we’re sharing 7 BDSM tips to get you started.

Even in a post-Fifty Shades world, there’s no shame in being new to BDSM. And while investing in gear and sex toys can be fun, this kind of play is ultimately about you, your partner (or partners), and consensual power exchange.

Following are our best BDSM tips.

BDSM Tips:  Talk it Through, Talk it Dirty and Put a Blindfold on It.

  1. Talk it through. When we talk about dominance and submission in BDSM, we’re talking about consensual power exchange. This means that even if a submissive partner is tied up and allowing the dominant partner to dictate what happens in a scene, the terms have been discussed and agreed upon by all partners beforehand. Before trying anything new, talk it over with your partner to make sure you’re both into whatever’s about to go down. You may be interested in choosing a safe word that stops play if needed. Need some Dom Sub ideas? Read our blog.
  2. Talk dirty. Ask your partner to talk dirty to you. Anyone can engage in dirty talk related to BDSM themes, whether you are dominant, submissive, or both. Dirty talk allows you to express your desires and verbal cues also help you visualize hot fantasies. It also lets you explore fantasies before physically trying them.
  3. Put a blindfold on it. Adding sensory deprivation to your sex life is an easy and tantalizing way to build tension. When you temporarily subtract stimuli from one sense, you can heighten others. For instance, when you can’t see because you’re wearing a blindfold, a whisper in your ear or the taste of your partner’s mouth may seem all the more intense — and exciting.

BDSM Tips:  Exercise Control, Heat it Up, Learn the Ropes and Play a Little

  1. Exercise orgasm control. Orgasm control, especially when done to a person with a penis, is usually referred to as “edging.” This involves bringing someone nearly to orgasm and then abruptly stopping the stimulation, then repeating as desired. If you’re new to orgasm control, you probably already know that delayed gratification can make the end reward that much sweeter.
  2. Heat things up with a massage candle. Candles are useful for more than just creating mood lighting. They can also be used for temperature play, or using hot and cold to provoke arousal during sexual play. In the case of candles, you can have a partner drizzle hot wax on your body, but don’t just use candles you picked up from the grocery store. The wax from those can be a little too hot. Buy massage candles designed for sex, in erotic scents. Read our blog for massage tips.
  3. Learn the ropes and cuffs. Restraint is the crux of many BDSM scenes. After you and your partner discuss what activities are on the table when one of you is tied up and what’s off-limits, the tying can begin. You don’t have to get fancy – just make sure the knot or tie is something you can undo when you’re ready. While ropes are highly versatile, you don’t have worry about your tying skills with handcuffs, and since you can also use cuffs to ensure the submissive partner is unable to touch themselves, they’re handy for experimenting with orgasm denial. Want tips for using handcuffs during sex? Read our blog.
  4. Play dress-up. Role-playing can help you get into a kinky mood as you take on the personas of people with power dynamics you want to explore, such as a boss and secretary or student and professor. Dressing up is a creative, liberating way to explore hidden desires, so if you’re turned on by being dominant or submissive with your partner – but feel a little nervous – the right outfit could help.

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Spicing Up Vanilla Sex With BDSM in Tampa

BDSM in Tampa is defined as including bondage and discipline (B-D), dominance and submission (D-S) and sadism and sasochism (S-M). But your experience with it does not have to include all of these aspects and, in fact, most don’t.

There is a lot of information about BDSM out there. An important thing to remember when first conducting your research – which you should do plenty of before getting into some of the trickier practices and techniques – is that none of the available sources should act as a strict bible. Feel free to take bits and pieces from various sources and utilize them to the extent that you and your partner(s) feel comfortable with.

Read our blog: Dom Sub: 6 Sexy Ideas.

Your Comfort Zone During BDSM in Tampa

Something else to keep in mind is that you can always say “no” when things are getting too far away from your comfort zone. The issue with saying “no” in practice, however, is that the point of a lot of BDSM is resistance.

This can be solved with the implementation of a safe word, which is a key word or phrase that you and your partner(s) decide on at an earlier time that signals something is wrong. When choosing a safe word, make sure that it isn’t something that could be misinterpreted as encouraging in BDSM, such as “no” or “wait.”

Instead, use something like “baskets” or “sassafras” to ensure the safety and comfort of all participants. Additionally, even if you’ve agreed to certain practices of submission or domination in the past, that doesn’t mean that you have to continue practicing those techniques in the future.

Exploring BDSM in Tampa

If you’re starting out in your exploration of a BDSM relationship, here are some easy ways to dip your toes into the vast BDSM pool.

Dominance-submission is one of several terms used to describe the time in which you and your partner(s) are using BDSM techniques or are in that headspace. One simple way to test out some dominance-submission relations is to have one of you take the lead position and dictate what happens during your scene. This may look like a step-by-step explanation of what the other is going to do, or it could be something that is stated throughout the scene, or it could be neither – it’s all up to you!

One of the beginning techniques for the bondage-discipline aspect is to invest in handcuffs or rope to get started. Handcuffs are one of the easier ways to utilize bondage, given their particularly user-friendly nature. However, try the fuzzy or cushioned styles of handcuffs first – just for safety and comfort — unless you want to lean more toward sadomasochism, which we’ll discuss in a moment.

(Read our blog:  How to Use Handcuffs During Sex the Best (and Safest) Way)

Ropes tend to have a bit more of a learning curve, but, on the bright side, it’s pretty easy to motivate yourself to learn tying and knotting techniques when you know that you and your partner(s) will be getting pleasure from them in the near future.

The Sadism-Masochism Portion of BDSM in Tampa

This is defined as finding pleasure from inflicting pain, suffering or humiliation on another (sadism).  It’s finding pleasure in having these things inflicted upon you (masochism). Some common and simple ways to test this out include some hair pulling, light choking, bodily slapping or tighter restraining.

Be sure to be careful and do a fair amount of research and checking in with your partner(s) if you escalate to more intense forms of sadomasochism such as whipping or ball gags.

Consent and Aftercare for BDSM in Tampa

Finally, we cannot stress the importance of enthusiastic consent and aftercare in a BDSM relationship enough. Aftercare is the practice of you and your partner(s) supporting and caring for each other after your scene. This can involve bags of ice, bandaids, cuddling and tenderness.

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How to Choose Sex Furniture in Tampa There are plenty of items on the market, but if learning new sex positions is what you're after, sex furniture is your best bet.

Let’s just assume that you and your partner have been enjoying your sexual experimentations for a while, but maybe you’ve gotten to the point where you think it might be time to try something even better. Consider sex furniture in Tampa!

There are plenty of items on the market, but if learning new sex positions is what you’re after, sex furniture is your best bet. It makes kinky comfortable – and safe. What that means is that you can get into all kinds of positions and still get out of bed the next morning.

Why Use Sex Furniture in Tampa?

Most people try using pillows or other household objects for better positions and are frustrated to find that it doesn’t quite do the trick. As a result, many people write off sex furniture.

Pillows aren’t made to hold your full body weight, but sex furniture in Tampa is especially designed for that. Many types are even rated for use by plus-size bodies. Using sex furniture can be an intensely rewarding experience that allows you and your partner to enjoy more pleasurable angles, new positions, and the journey into different sensations.

When you first begin to look at sex furniture, you might feel extremely overwhelmed. After all, there are a lot of options. If you’ve never purchased it before, it can seem like too much to handle. Don’t worry – this article will help you with that.

Just follow these six steps for what could be the most pleasurable, comfortable sex you’ve ever had.

Positions, Discretion and Size of Your Sex Furniture in Tampa

Step 1: Pick your positions. The first step to picking the perfect sex furniture is to figure out what sex positions you want to achieve. This will give you a better idea of what shapes might work for you. Some furniture is designed for better angles during doggy style, while other types are designed to lift the hips during missionary position for better G-spot stimulation. Yet others are designed to help support the knees during woman-on-top positions. Understand what position you want to achieve and imagine what shape would help you achieve that. Look for a shape that matches your imagination.

Step 2: Decide on discretion. Will you need to hide your sex furniture when other people are around? If so, you’ll want something that’s discreet enough to pass off as regular furniture or something that’s small enough to hide under the bed or in the closet. Make sure to take into account whether or not you’ll be able to keep your furniture hidden if needed. Some companies create furniture especially designed to look like decorative pillows or footrests.

Step 3: Size matters. Sex furniture in Tampa comes in all sorts of shapes and sizes. In fact, some sex furniture may be made in “plus-size” or “short” varieties to provide a better experience regardless of body size. If you have a body concern (such as height or weight), make sure to take measurements of yourself and the shape of the furniture before purchase. This helps you ensure that it will be wide or tall enough for your needs. Remember that body weight and placement may change when lying down versus standing up.

Durability, Stacking and Cleaning Your Sex Furniture in Tampa

Step 4: Choose something that can take a beating. While inflatable sex furniture exists and it makes for extremely discreet storage, it’s not very durable. Inflatable furniture may be cheaper, but it may not last as long as other sex furniture materials. Inflatable toys may not hold up to rough sex either. While inflatable furniture might be a great choice for some people, foam-core furniture may hold up over the longer term. It’ll also be way more supportive and comfortable.

Step 5: Contemplate stacking. If you want to get your creative juices flowing, look for stackable sex furniture. This mix-and-match sex furniture can help ensure that you always get the best angle. These shapes are made with no-slip material, allowing you to stack and change up their shape for sexy, creative fun. It’s like an adult playground!

Step 6: Consider cleaning. Sex can be messy, which means that good sex furniture in Tampa should be easy to clean. Some sex furniture can be wiped down after use. Others have zip-off liners that can be tossed into the washer for simple cleaning. If you have a preferred method of cleaning, make sure that your potential sex furniture works for you.

As you start to look through your options using these suggestions, you’ll find that your list of choices begins to narrow. This is a good thing! You’ll have a good idea about what sex furniture in Tampa works for the needs and bodies of both you and your partner. Pick up a piece or two. Then get comfortable, get creative and have fun getting into new sex positions.

 

 

 

 

 

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Make the Missionary Position More Exciting with These 8 Tips

If there’s a stand-by sex position you can swear by, it has to be the missionary position. You know, simple run of the mill, one on top one on bottom, love making.

The position is most desired between couples because it’s comfortable, has great penetration and of course you’re face-face, which takes the intimacy factor up a notch. There is really no reason for it to get boring, unless of course, you’re having sex every day and that’s the position of your choice.

But if you swear by the missionary position and it’s getting robotic and monotonous, you can always spice up your sex life by introducing a variety of things you can do that work like a charm.

Here are 8 strategies to boost the pleasure quotient while you’re in the missionary position.

Toys, Bondage, Sex Furniture and CAT During the Missionary Position

Bring Extras: You can always use some vibration to up the pleasure when you’re inside her. Use gadgets that bring about excess pleasure while making love and you’ll never find a dull moment. You can use a vibration ring around your penis or even a cock ring, which restricts the flow of blood, from the erect penis, to build a stronger erection. (Read: How to Use C-Rings.)

Tie Her Up: Bondage is always an exciting way to experiment in bed and if you love missionary you can always try bondage along with it. Tie her hands to the bedpost with handcuffs, scarves or even a rope and then explore the fun you can have! Yes, it can get a bit rough, but do we always wish for vanilla?

Pillow’s Aren’t Just for Talking: Placing a pillow or a cushion underneath her butt, while you’re inside her, deepens the penetration, giving both the partners full and intense orgasms. It props her back up which makes contacting a lot easier. Use a hard pillow, which can hold her posture up or purchase some sex furniture to make the sensation even better.

Try the Coital Alignment Technique (CAT): The technique involves gaining more clitoral friction when in the missionary position. All you have to do is shift a little forward so that your penis penetrates more at a vertical angle. The eventual goal is to rub the clitoris with the base of your penis and pelvic bone as you thrust downwards. Yes, the position is a little awkward at first but once you try it, you’ll never stop doing it!

Get Handsy, Different Places, Rhythm and Eye Contact to During the Missionary Position

Use Your Hands: You probably can’t give your partner the clitoral stimulation she requires when you’re in this position because of the reach (unless you position yourself differently) but you can use your hands to do whatever else you feel like, since they’re free! Ask her what she enjoys the most and do just that.

Different Places Is Aces: Don’t restrict missionary to just your bed. You can move around a little bit and try it in different places. The missionary position becomes boring when it’s repeatedly done on the bed, but a newer surrounding can make it more exciting. 

The Rhythm Is Going to Get You: Your partner can make it a bit interesting for you too. She doesn’t have to lie still while you’re inside her. Ask her to bend her knees and plant her feet on the bed and move her hips along with yours. She can even try moving her hips in a circular motion or back and forth in an undulating wave-like pattern and get into each other’s rhythm.

Eye to Eye: One great thing about the missionary is looking into your lover’s eyes while doing it, since you’re face to face. This helps increase intimacy and makes love-making way more pleasurable. Don’t lose eye contact and trust me you’ll explode with the intensity you face, while in the position.

The Bottom Line

Remember, adding pleasure to your sex life should be fun at the end of the day and not stressful. Try these 8 techniques, if you like the missionary position and you’ll definitely rock her world!

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BDSM Tampa: How To Use Handcuffs During Sex In The Best (And Safest) Way If you're looking for a beginner's way in, handcuffs are a really simple and super-fun way to start.

Considering trying BDSM Tampa? If you’re looking for a beginner’s way in, handcuffs are a really simple and super-fun way to start. Restraints are a fantastic way to explore the world of bondage and discover a new level of pleasure and play. Using handcuffs may seem pretty self-explanatory, but there are a few key things to know to ensure you’re getting the most of being cuffed and doing it safely.

Introducing Restraints

When most people think of BDSM, a lovely, gentle chat is probably the last thing that springs to mind. But any form of BDSM play needs to be based on absolute trust and effective communication between partners. Establish consent, boundaries and safe words before you begin exploring. Talk to your partner about exactly what turns you on. Having this discussion allows you to go into detail and build up a scenario to play out later, while building the suspense.(Read our blog: How to Introduce Kink into Your Relationship.)

Pick Your Handcuffs Style

There are so many different types of handcuffs and restraints, it’s really not necessary to walk away with bruised wrists (unless you’re into that, of course).  When engaging in BDSM Tampa, always begin with soft cuffs, which allow you to explore restraints without having to worry about getting stuck. You can play around with control, all in the comfort of knowing there are no pesky keys to lose. Hypoallergenic silicone is a great and safe material for sex toys and accessories – and they’re soft, flexible and strong.

Putting Them On

Before anyone gets handcuffed to anything, you need to pick your position. Whether you want your hands tied above your head, behind your back or to the bedposts, the options are endless. If you’re the one being retained, you’ll have to rely on your partner to position you in your chosen cuffs. With your discussion beforehand, you should both be quite clear of what everyone wants and is comfortable with.

Starting with either yourself or your partner laid on your back, and restrained with hands above your head, is a simple and pleasurable position to start in. Whatever you want to do once you’re in position, is totally up to you. But it’ll leave you free to get into loads of awesome sex positions and also means that you can explore erogenous zones and both give and receive oral sex.

Communicate

During BDSM Tampa, reassure your partner by talking to them throughout, and telling them exactly what you’re going to do to them next. This allows them to voice any concerns and can also settle any nerves they may have.

Play with Temperature and Other Accessories

Temperature play is so much fun, and introduces new sensations to your sex play. Freezing lube in an ice cube tray is a super-fun (and slippery) way to use it. With your lover’s hands already cuffed above their head, add a blindfold. One sense becomes heightened when another is taken away. Watch how their body responds as you slide the ice cubes over them – the coldness will also increase skin sensitivity.

Rubbing the frozen lube on their neck, nipples, inner thighs and genitals makes bloody rush to the area, too. Kissing and licking their erect nipples, or gently blowing on their chilled, lubed neck will be the ultimate tease.

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Dom Sub Tampa: Your Questions Answered! Our Christmas gift to you!

We are getting asked an increasing number of questions regarding <a href=’https://www.everythingsexy4play.com/sexology-101/7-bdsm-tips-for-total-beginners/>Dom Sub Tampa relationships, so today we thought we’d share the most common ones.

Why do couples prefer Dom/sub relationships?

Dom Sub Tampa is one aspect of the wider category of BDSM (Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, and Sadomasochism), also referred to as kink. Some people are into all of the things listed under BDSM, and some only a couple of them. Dom Sub is generally distinguished from SM because it is more about power than about physical sensation.

Of course it is pretty common for sex and power to be combined in our culture. For example, a lot of romance fiction involves people being rescued from peril or being swept away by somebody more powerful, and a lot of people fantasize about having the power of being desirable to their partner.

What is involved in a Dom/sub relationship Tampa?

If somebody identifies as being in a Dom Sub relationship, they probably include power play in their sex life. People can identify as dominant, submissive, or switch, which means that they are sometimes dominant and sometimes submissive. Some people stick to the same roles each time they play, or they may assume different roles on different occasions.

For most people, being Dom Sub will be something that they only do some of the time but not always. Such scenes could involve any kind of switch of power. Some people have lifestyle or 24/7 arrangements, where one person always takes the dominant, and the other takes on the submissive role.

Why do so many people have misconceptions of Dom Sub Tampa?

The media portrayal of BDSM has tended to be very negative, often associating it with violence, danger, abuse, madness and criminality. Research has shown that people who are into BDSM are actually no different from others in terms of emotional wellbeing or upbringing.

Often the media focuses on the most extreme examples, such as very heavy and/or 24/7 Dom Sub arrangements, rather than the more common relationships where there are elements of Dom Sub.

How do couples go about beginning a Dom Sub relationship in Tampa?

A good idea for all people in relationships, whether or not they are interested in Dom Sub Tampa, is to communicate about what they like sexually early on, and more broadly about what roles they like to take in the relationship.

For example, one good activity is to create a list as a couple of all of the sexual practices that either of you is aware of, and then to go down it writing ‘yes’, ‘no’, or ‘maybe’ about whether it is something that interests you, and sharing your thoughts. It can also be good to share sexual fantasies or favorite images/stories and to talk about whether (and, if so, how) they might be incorporated into your sex life.

It is very important that people only do things that they really want to try (rather than feeling pressured into certain activities) and that it is accepted that there will likely to be areas that aren’t compatible as well as those that are.

Some people have a Dom Sub relationship outside of an existing relationship – how can this affect a relationship?

Although it isn’t always out in the open, many couples have arrangements where they are open to some extent, such as open relationships, swinging, and ‘don’t ask don’t tell’ agreements.

Having different sexual desires is one reason why some couples open up their relationship to one or both of them being sexual with another person. If this desire is communicated clearly, kindly and thoughtfully, it can work perfectly well.

In regards to the hit book 50 Shades of Grey, many husbands have bought this for their wives and girlfriends – does it help?

One of the good things about 50 Shades of Grey is that it has opened up this kind of conversation for many people. However, it is important not to assume that the only form of BDSM is the one described in the book. In a heterosexual couple it may well be that the woman is more dominant, for example, or that both people switch roles, and the things that they enjoy may well be different to the ones which Ana and Christian engage in.

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