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6 Easy Anal Sex Positions For Just About Anyone Doggy Style is Not The Only Way

Doggy style is not the only way to have anal sex! There’s a whole other world of positions for butt fun, and today we’re sharing must-try anal sex positions for everyone, regardless of their sexual orientation and gender identity. And don’t forget the lube!

Anal Sex Positions for All

The Curly Wurly

Lie down together with your bodies close together, with the receiving partner nestled closely in front, knees up to their chest, and gently ease on top (like you’re spooning). Lifting your legs up and away from your body opens the sphincter up a little and enables easier penetration. Make it even hotter with a bullet vibrator. The penetrating partner can also reach around in front and stimulate your clitoris with a bullet.

Doggy Style

So even though it’s not the only option, no anal sex positions guide would be complete without classic doggy. When you think of anal sex positions, doggy often springs to mind because it allows the receiving partner ultimate control of penetration to allow for greater pleasure. Make it even hotter with warming lube – it adds a whole new sensation and therefore, heightens your pleasure.

The Rider

Most of us are familiar with this rodeo riding position, and it’s a perfect one to get you and your partner warmed up. It allows the receiving partner on top to gradually control the depth that the penis or strap-on enters the anus and also the pace of thrusting, perfect for those warming up to anal.

Missionary

This take on the popular oral sex positions is not what you’re thinking. The beauty of this missionary twist is the opportunity it provides to open up doorways to additional techniques. For even more control, the receiver can place the soles of their feet against the giver’s shoulders, enabling you to push back and release according to what you like and what feels good for you.

Reverse Missionary

It’s like missionary but reversed. Penetration can be made easier and more enjoyable for beginners by lying on top of a pillow nestled under the stomach or lying on sex furniture. The bum is raised higher and enables a nice opening for access to other areas. Make it even hotter with a vibrating cock ring.

Something Different

If a lot of this information regarding anal sex positions still sounds daunting, don’t feel pressured or forced into it – maybe start with gently fingering the anal area or by using a small sex toy for beginners.

Just remember you absolutely do not have to go full steam ahead if you don’t want to. Just make sure you feel comfortable and take it one step at a time, at your own pace and comfort level to find out which anal sex positions work for you.

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How to Have Anal Sex That Doesn’t Hurt Our 7 Expert Tips

What is the first thing you think about when someone mentions anal sex? Is it untold pleasure? Is it sensuous closeness? Is it discovering unknown intimacy? Could it even be the best orgasms you can have?

Probably not. If you’ve never tried it, you’ve probably been told it is going to hurt.

And this is fair enough – anal sex might hurt and we all need to know that. Pain-free anal sex is not a fantastical oxymoron – it is real and it is awesome.

Check out our seven tips for having anal sex that doesn’t hurt and get down to the bottom fun.

Experiment with Self-Pleasure Before Anal Sex

If you are curious about exploring it, the best way to experiment is on your own, in your own masturbatory bliss. If you want to get a sense of what it feels like to be touched between the cheeks, reach down while you’re already enjoying strong sexual feelings. It is important to get a lay of the land, a true idea of the shape and texture of the anus.

Talk About Anal Sex Beforehand

Some people really love the spontaneity of sex, but anal fun really should be something that is discussed beforehand. This is one of the most important factors in taking pain out of the equation. And don’t just stop at an initial discussion. Anal experiences can vary greatly, so there really is no way to anticipate how you or your partner will feel during anal play.

Set the Scene

If you are too nervous, being uptight could be quite painful. One of the best ways to move from stressing to relaxing is a long, luxurious massage that warms the skin and muscles can help you or a nervous partner relax. As your partner moves closer to the epicenter between your cheeks, you’ll feel more turned on and open. (Tip: Try our massage oil candles!)

Focus on Sensuality

Taking a shower together is a hot way to bring sensuality into your anal pleasure. This also helps with the real fear of cleanliness. If you’re really worried about this, it may also help to perform an anal douche beforehand. Getting all soaped up under steamy hot water with your partner while your hands roam over each other’s bodies can set a relaxed, worry-free and sexual mood.

Make Things Slippery…Very Slippery Before Anal Sex

Lube is the best friend of anyone who wants anything to do with your anus! Remember, it does not have natural lubrication like other orifices do. Trying to penetrate your own or someone else’s anus without lube significantly increases the chances of anal tearing and pain. There are four main types of lubricant you can use: water-based, silicone, hybrid, and oil, and really, whatever works for you and your partners is important. How to choose? Read our blog post.

Size Up the Situation Before Anal Sex

One of the most frequent sources of pain during anal sex is from trying to play with something you’re just not ready to use. This is particularly true if what you’re trying to play with is a rigid penis or a sex toy. Even in the height of excitement, you have to temper your expectations of what you can fit inside you. If it is your first time enjoying ass pleasure, you and your partner need to start off small – and maybe not even take anything inside at all. Starting small and working your way up to bigger sizes will heighten your excitement and lower your chance of pain.

Take It Slow

Patience is the best virtue when it comes to anal sex. Slowing things down is one of the keys to eliminating pain during anal fun. If penetration is the ultimate goal of your anal adventure, whether with deep fingers, a sex toy, or a penis, it is important to pick a position that is both comfortable and practical. If there is any hint of discomfort, you are in complete control and can back off until good feelings return.

One last note: These suggestions offer an ideal, but we must remember that everybody’s body is different. Hopefully these ideas will help you experience pain-free anal fun, but if other things do better, please share!

Still have questions about anal sex? Check out our blog post!

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Your Anal Sex Questions Answered!

Maybe you’ve always wanted to try it but feel nervous about taking the plunge. Or maybe anal is already part of your sex routine and you’re looking for tips to make it even hotter. Or maybe you’re just curious to know what backdoor sex is really like.

Whether you’re an anal virgin or a die-hard fan, you’ll want to keep reading because we’re answering the most common questions and offering some tips.

Isn’t it Kind of…Gross?

The biggest misconception about anal sex is that it’s disgusting and dirty. For some people, that can be true. But everyone should know anal sex can be an extremely erotic, exciting activity. If you’re willing to try it, you might find it an unexpectedly fun addition to your sexual repertoire.

But Does It Hurt?

Research suggests that pain is common, especially in the beginning. But with adequate relaxation and arousal, it should feel good for both parties. If you find insertion painful or difficult, stop and go back to the drawing board.

How Do I Get Started?

The most important thing is feeling comfortable—you can even wash beforehand if that will help. Then it’s all about starting slowly. You can begin with inserting a finger first and using lube to get comfortable with the pressure in your rectum.

Beginner’s Tip: Try Solo Play First

Your two sphincter muscles are not only essential to anal health but also to pleasure. These ring-like structures control what goes in and out of your butt, so you need to become familiar with their functioning and learn to exercise control over them.

Beginner’s Tip: Breathe Deeply

Holding your breath interferes with muscle relaxation, which is essential to anal sex. As you breathe deeply, your inner sphincter muscle will relax to facilitate penetration.

Beginner’s Tip: Use Lube

Most people prefer silicone-based lube for anal sex. But no matter what type you choose, lube is a non-negotiable when it comes to anal play.

Pro Tip: Double Your Pleasure

If you have a vagina and a clit, use them. Insert a toy into your vagina during anal in order to press against the little space along the lower/back wall of your vagina, between the cervix and the vaginal wall. Some women attribute orgasm from anal sex to this hot spot.

Pro Tip: Try the “Lap Dance” Position

The penetrative partner sits on a chair, and their partner stands over them as though they’re giving a lap dance. This not only provides a sexy view, but it also allows the standing partner to exercise total control.

Pro Tip: Incorporate Some Toys

If you really want to amp up the sensation, play with a sex accessory, like a vibrating penis ring.

No Matter What, Always Be Safe

The anus is sensitive and prone to tearing and infection, so be sure to practice safer sex with lube and condoms. It’s also important not to cross-contaminate – you never want to put an object in your bum and then back into your vagina.

If you’re not into anal sex, that’s okay too – you don’t have to create a sexual bucket list and cross off every item in order to enjoy a fulfilling sex life—you simply need to keep an open mind.