How to Have Anal Sex That Doesn’t Hurt Our 7 Expert Tips

What is the first thing you think about when someone mentions anal sex? Is it untold pleasure? Is it sensuous closeness? Is it discovering unknown intimacy? Could it even be the best orgasms you can have?

Probably not. If you’ve never tried it, you’ve probably been told it is going to hurt.

And this is fair enough – anal sex might hurt and we all need to know that. Pain-free anal sex is not a fantastical oxymoron – it is real and it is awesome.

Check out our seven tips for having anal sex that doesn’t hurt and get down to the bottom fun.

Experiment with Self-Pleasure Before Anal Sex

If you are curious about exploring it, the best way to experiment is on your own, in your own masturbatory bliss. If you want to get a sense of what it feels like to be touched between the cheeks, reach down while you’re already enjoying strong sexual feelings. It is important to get a lay of the land, a true idea of the shape and texture of the anus.

Talk About Anal Sex Beforehand

Some people really love the spontaneity of sex, but anal fun really should be something that is discussed beforehand. This is one of the most important factors in taking pain out of the equation. And don’t just stop at an initial discussion. Anal experiences can vary greatly, so there really is no way to anticipate how you or your partner will feel during anal play.

Set the Scene

If you are too nervous, being uptight could be quite painful. One of the best ways to move from stressing to relaxing is a long, luxurious massage that warms the skin and muscles can help you or a nervous partner relax. As your partner moves closer to the epicenter between your cheeks, you’ll feel more turned on and open. (Tip: Try our massage oil candles!)

Focus on Sensuality

Taking a shower together is a hot way to bring sensuality into your anal pleasure. This also helps with the real fear of cleanliness. If you’re really worried about this, it may also help to perform an anal douche beforehand. Getting all soaped up under steamy hot water with your partner while your hands roam over each other’s bodies can set a relaxed, worry-free and sexual mood.

Make Things Slippery…Very Slippery Before Anal Sex

Lube is the best friend of anyone who wants anything to do with your anus! Remember, it does not have natural lubrication like other orifices do. Trying to penetrate your own or someone else’s anus without lube significantly increases the chances of anal tearing and pain. There are four main types of lubricant you can use: water-based, silicone, hybrid, and oil, and really, whatever works for you and your partners is important. How to choose? Read our blog post.

Size Up the Situation Before Anal Sex

One of the most frequent sources of pain during anal sex is from trying to play with something you’re just not ready to use. This is particularly true if what you’re trying to play with is a rigid penis or a sex toy. Even in the height of excitement, you have to temper your expectations of what you can fit inside you. If it is your first time enjoying ass pleasure, you and your partner need to start off small – and maybe not even take anything inside at all. Starting small and working your way up to bigger sizes will heighten your excitement and lower your chance of pain.

Take It Slow

Patience is the best virtue when it comes to anal sex. Slowing things down is one of the keys to eliminating pain during anal fun. If penetration is the ultimate goal of your anal adventure, whether with deep fingers, a sex toy, or a penis, it is important to pick a position that is both comfortable and practical. If there is any hint of discomfort, you are in complete control and can back off until good feelings return.

One last note: These suggestions offer an ideal, but we must remember that everybody’s body is different. Hopefully these ideas will help you experience pain-free anal fun, but if other things do better, please share!

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How to Find and Stimulate the P-Spot For many, prostate stimulation is a source of deep sexual pleasure!

So what exactly is the “P-Spot”? It’s the prostate gland that is located in the middle of the pelvis and produces part of the fluid that comes out when a man ejaculates. You can’t touch the prostate directly, but it is possible to stimulate it indirectly, internally via anal stimulation and externally by massage. So how do you find and stimulate the p-spot?

Not all people with prostates enjoy having it stimulated.  Like the g-spot, or any other part of the body, some people will find stimulation arousing, others will find it boring and some may even find it painful. But for many the prostate is a source of deep sexual pleasure.

Following are our top tips if you want to learn how to find and stimulate the p-spot.

Wash up and relax.

When it comes to putting anything up in an anus, a common concern and hesitation is about the possibility of coming into contact with feces. Having a warm bath or hot shower may help alleviate anxiety about this. It also helps to relax, which is an important state to be in for any sex play. A bath or shower can also be a great place to explore your own or your partner’s body.

Smooth out the rough edges.

The lining of the anus is very sensitive and can be torn easily. Make sure your nails are short and smooth.  If you’re playing with sex toys, make sure they are safe for anal penetration.

Turn yourself on.

Because the prostate swells when aroused, it’s easier to find when you’re hot and bothered. Watch an adult movie, masturbate, fantasize…whatever gets you in the mood.

Get comfortable before you stimulate the p-spot.

If you are exploring on your own, find a position you are most comfortable in where you have access to your bum. Try lying on your side or squatting. Sitting in a comfortable chair might work, or lie on your back with your legs in the air. Using sex furniture can help you get comfortable.

From the outside in.

You never want to rush the penetration part of anal play. Start with an external massage using massage oils and perhaps a finger massager. The perineum is located between the scrotum and the anus. Many people find that massaging the perineum is relaxing and pleasurable. You probably won’t be able to feel the prostate with your fingers while massaging the perineum, but you are actually stimulating it indirectly.

Go on in to stimulate the p-spot.

When you are ready to insert a finger in the anus, try to tune into your breath. You can use conscious breathing techniques to deepen your awareness of physical responses. Make sure you have lots of lubricant on hand, literally and figuratively. The best way to insert a finger in the anus is to start with the pad of your finger first (not the tip). Gently put the pad of one finger up to the opening of the anus and leave it there while you breath. When you are exhaling, push out as if you’re trying to go to the bathroom and you should feel your sphincter muscles relax a bit and your finger should be able to slide in. Once inside, rest a moment while you get used to the sensation of having something in your anus.

Finding the prostate.

You should be able to feel the prostate about two inches in and toward your belly. It is often a walnut-shaped bump. Some men will know when they are touching it, others won’t notice much at all. It can be easier to have someone else find it for you.

Experiment with different kinds of touch to stimulate the p-spot.

Once you’ve found the prostate, you can experiment with what feels good. Some people like the feeling of consistent pressure, while others prefer vibration or an on-off kind of pressure. You can also experiment by squeezing your PC muscle and see how that changes the feeling.

Using sex toys.

Anal sex toys can be a great way to explore prostate stimulation. Toys that have a slight curve are often designed for prostate stimulation. Some toys will vibrate, which is a completely different kind of sensation that some guys like and others don’t. If you’re going to try a vibrator, be sure to get one with variable speed, so you can start slow if you want to.

Butt plugs are anal toys designed to be inserted in the anus and stay in place. Some guys will put in a butt plug and then have other kinds of sex play (either masturbation or play with partners). Many say that having a butt plug in provides a mild but constant prostate stimulation abd really changes the way that their orgasms feel.

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Your Anal Sex Questions Answered!

Maybe you’ve always wanted to try it but feel nervous about taking the plunge. Or maybe anal is already part of your sex routine and you’re looking for tips to make it even hotter. Or maybe you’re just curious to know what backdoor sex is really like.

Whether you’re an anal virgin or a die-hard fan, you’ll want to keep reading because we’re answering the most common questions and offering some tips.

Isn’t it Kind of…Gross?

The biggest misconception about anal sex is that it’s disgusting and dirty. For some people, that can be true. But everyone should know anal sex can be an extremely erotic, exciting activity. If you’re willing to try it, you might find it an unexpectedly fun addition to your sexual repertoire.

But Does It Hurt?

Research suggests that pain is common, especially in the beginning. But with adequate relaxation and arousal, it should feel good for both parties. If you find insertion painful or difficult, stop and go back to the drawing board.

How Do I Get Started?

The most important thing is feeling comfortable—you can even wash beforehand if that will help. Then it’s all about starting slowly. You can begin with inserting a finger first and using lube to get comfortable with the pressure in your rectum.

Beginner’s Tip: Try Solo Play First

Your two sphincter muscles are not only essential to anal health but also to pleasure. These ring-like structures control what goes in and out of your butt, so you need to become familiar with their functioning and learn to exercise control over them.

Beginner’s Tip: Breathe Deeply

Holding your breath interferes with muscle relaxation, which is essential to anal sex. As you breathe deeply, your inner sphincter muscle will relax to facilitate penetration.

Beginner’s Tip: Use Lube

Most people prefer silicone-based lube for anal sex. But no matter what type you choose, lube is a non-negotiable when it comes to anal play.

Pro Tip: Double Your Pleasure

If you have a vagina and a clit, use them. Insert a toy into your vagina during anal in order to press against the little space along the lower/back wall of your vagina, between the cervix and the vaginal wall. Some women attribute orgasm from anal sex to this hot spot.

Pro Tip: Try the “Lap Dance” Position

The penetrative partner sits on a chair, and their partner stands over them as though they’re giving a lap dance. This not only provides a sexy view, but it also allows the standing partner to exercise total control.

Pro Tip: Incorporate Some Toys

If you really want to amp up the sensation, play with a sex accessory, like a vibrating penis ring.

No Matter What, Always Be Safe

The anus is sensitive and prone to tearing and infection, so be sure to practice safer sex with lube and condoms. It’s also important not to cross-contaminate – you never want to put an object in your bum and then back into your vagina.

If you’re not into anal sex, that’s okay too – you don’t have to create a sexual bucket list and cross off every item in order to enjoy a fulfilling sex life—you simply need to keep an open mind.