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Dos And Don’ts When Visiting An Adult Store Here's a guide to the proper store etiquette when shopping for pleasure products.

We find that for a lot of people, the idea of going to a store and talking to a person one-on-one about their sex life is intimidating. However, the advantage of visiting our adult store rather than shopping online is that not only do you get to see and compare the products firsthand, but you also get expert knowledge from experienced salespeople.

Here’s a guide to the proper store etiquette when shopping for pleasure products.

Learn about your (and your partner’s) body before you come in.

When shopping for others, whether it’s a partner or a bachelorette, get a feel for their sexual preferences and maybe even fantasies. Don’t assume. For example, most women need clitoral stimulation in order to achieve orgasm, so we  might recommend a clitoral/external stimulator over the standard dildo or vibrator. A good place to start is to educate yourself about the male and female erogenous zones. When you get to the store, a salesperson can provide product suggestions.

Learn from the educated salespeople at the adult store.

Don’t go to a adult store where the employees are simply looking for a paycheck. Sex toys have actual science and complicated technology behind them (material, power, cleanliness, etc.), not to mention history. You want to learn these things from experts. (Read: How to Clean and Maintain Your Sex Toys)

Sex toys can be costly.

Adult stores are typically locally-owned. We are aware that you can find many of our adult products, especially high-end ones, online for less. But we urge you to shop local.  There are plenty of other adult toys under $100 that are better than luxury brands – enough factors and exceptions play in that it’s important to seek professional advice.

Ask a lot of questions when visiting an adult store.

There is no such thing as a stupid question – just be appropriate and respectful. Don’t ask, “You stick it up WHERE?!” Try instead, “How is this toy used?” Ultimately we are trained retail workers and want to answer any questions you have.

Don’t ask what’s “best.”

There is no such thing as the “best” toy because what works for some people won’t for others. Pretty much everything regarding sexual pleasure is personal; find out what feels good for you and work with that.

Don’t ask the salesperson at the adult store what their favorite is.

This is still a retail shop; just because we’re selling pleasure products doesn’t mean we’ve tried all, some, or any of them. We will volunteer the information ourselves if we feel comfortable enough doing so.

Don’t be ashamed to visit an adult store.

People are becoming more open to talking about and enjoying sex. It is perfectly okay for people to enjoy sex, either alone or with another person. Further, sex toys are not just a “chick thing;” there are plenty of toys designed for men.

Sex is fun. Don’t let social norms prevent you from being open to or trying new things. Come by and let our expert staff answer your questions and show you our complete line of adult products for your pleasure. Stop by the best adult store today to see our complete selection of adult toysadult apparel (including a wide variety of lingerie and dancewear), adult gamesadult furniture, and more!

 

 

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7 BDSM Tips For TOTAL Beginners Today we're sharing 7 BDSM tips to get you started.

Many people are curious about the erotic power BDSM, but don’t feel ready to invest in a full-scale dungeon just yet. The good news is that you can add BDSM moves to your sex life without spending a fortune on accessories or mastering a dozen types of different rope ties. Today we’re sharing 7 BDSM tips to get you started.

Even in a post-Fifty Shades world, there’s no shame in being new to BDSM. And while investing in gear and sex toys can be fun, this kind of play is ultimately about you, your partner (or partners), and consensual power exchange.

Following are our best BDSM tips.

BDSM Tips:  Talk it Through, Talk it Dirty and Put a Blindfold on It.

  1. Talk it through. When we talk about dominance and submission in BDSM, we’re talking about consensual power exchange. This means that even if a submissive partner is tied up and allowing the dominant partner to dictate what happens in a scene, the terms have been discussed and agreed upon by all partners beforehand. Before trying anything new, talk it over with your partner to make sure you’re both into whatever’s about to go down. You may be interested in choosing a safe word that stops play if needed. Need some Dom Sub ideas? Read our blog.
  2. Talk dirty. Ask your partner to talk dirty to you. Anyone can engage in dirty talk related to BDSM themes, whether you are dominant, submissive, or both. Dirty talk allows you to express your desires and verbal cues also help you visualize hot fantasies. It also lets you explore fantasies before physically trying them.
  3. Put a blindfold on it. Adding sensory deprivation to your sex life is an easy and tantalizing way to build tension. When you temporarily subtract stimuli from one sense, you can heighten others. For instance, when you can’t see because you’re wearing a blindfold, a whisper in your ear or the taste of your partner’s mouth may seem all the more intense — and exciting.

BDSM Tips:  Exercise Control, Heat it Up, Learn the Ropes and Play a Little

  1. Exercise orgasm control. Orgasm control, especially when done to a person with a penis, is usually referred to as “edging.” This involves bringing someone nearly to orgasm and then abruptly stopping the stimulation, then repeating as desired. If you’re new to orgasm control, you probably already know that delayed gratification can make the end reward that much sweeter.
  2. Heat things up with a massage candle. Candles are useful for more than just creating mood lighting. They can also be used for temperature play, or using hot and cold to provoke arousal during sexual play. In the case of candles, you can have a partner drizzle hot wax on your body, but don’t just use candles you picked up from the grocery store. The wax from those can be a little too hot. Buy massage candles designed for sex, in erotic scents. Read our blog for massage tips.
  3. Learn the ropes and cuffs. Restraint is the crux of many BDSM scenes. After you and your partner discuss what activities are on the table when one of you is tied up and what’s off-limits, the tying can begin. You don’t have to get fancy – just make sure the knot or tie is something you can undo when you’re ready. While ropes are highly versatile, you don’t have worry about your tying skills with handcuffs, and since you can also use cuffs to ensure the submissive partner is unable to touch themselves, they’re handy for experimenting with orgasm denial. Want tips for using handcuffs during sex? Read our blog.
  4. Play dress-up. Role-playing can help you get into a kinky mood as you take on the personas of people with power dynamics you want to explore, such as a boss and secretary or student and professor. Dressing up is a creative, liberating way to explore hidden desires, so if you’re turned on by being dominant or submissive with your partner – but feel a little nervous – the right outfit could help.

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BDSM Tampa: How To Use Handcuffs During Sex In The Best (And Safest) Way If you're looking for a beginner's way in, handcuffs are a really simple and super-fun way to start.

Considering trying BDSM Tampa? If you’re looking for a beginner’s way in, handcuffs are a really simple and super-fun way to start. Restraints are a fantastic way to explore the world of bondage and discover a new level of pleasure and play. Using handcuffs may seem pretty self-explanatory, but there are a few key things to know to ensure you’re getting the most of being cuffed and doing it safely.

Introducing Restraints

When most people think of BDSM, a lovely, gentle chat is probably the last thing that springs to mind. But any form of BDSM play needs to be based on absolute trust and effective communication between partners. Establish consent, boundaries and safe words before you begin exploring. Talk to your partner about exactly what turns you on. Having this discussion allows you to go into detail and build up a scenario to play out later, while building the suspense.(Read our blog: How to Introduce Kink into Your Relationship.)

Pick Your Handcuffs Style

There are so many different types of handcuffs and restraints, it’s really not necessary to walk away with bruised wrists (unless you’re into that, of course).  When engaging in BDSM Tampa, always begin with soft cuffs, which allow you to explore restraints without having to worry about getting stuck. You can play around with control, all in the comfort of knowing there are no pesky keys to lose. Hypoallergenic silicone is a great and safe material for sex toys and accessories – and they’re soft, flexible and strong.

Putting Them On

Before anyone gets handcuffed to anything, you need to pick your position. Whether you want your hands tied above your head, behind your back or to the bedposts, the options are endless. If you’re the one being retained, you’ll have to rely on your partner to position you in your chosen cuffs. With your discussion beforehand, you should both be quite clear of what everyone wants and is comfortable with.

Starting with either yourself or your partner laid on your back, and restrained with hands above your head, is a simple and pleasurable position to start in. Whatever you want to do once you’re in position, is totally up to you. But it’ll leave you free to get into loads of awesome sex positions and also means that you can explore erogenous zones and both give and receive oral sex.

Communicate

During BDSM Tampa, reassure your partner by talking to them throughout, and telling them exactly what you’re going to do to them next. This allows them to voice any concerns and can also settle any nerves they may have.

Play with Temperature and Other Accessories

Temperature play is so much fun, and introduces new sensations to your sex play. Freezing lube in an ice cube tray is a super-fun (and slippery) way to use it. With your lover’s hands already cuffed above their head, add a blindfold. One sense becomes heightened when another is taken away. Watch how their body responds as you slide the ice cubes over them – the coldness will also increase skin sensitivity.

Rubbing the frozen lube on their neck, nipples, inner thighs and genitals makes bloody rush to the area, too. Kissing and licking their erect nipples, or gently blowing on their chilled, lubed neck will be the ultimate tease.

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Blow BOTH Your Minds With These Sex Toys From the Best Adult Store in Tampa!

If you’re looking to spice up your sex life and leave your partner begging for more, a new toy could be a game changer. Curious about how to use sex toys? We’re here at the best adult store in Tampa to show you how to make the most of your kinky fun.

If you’re new to sex toys, it’s a good idea to start using one alone before introducing it to your partner. This will give you time to get comfortable with how to use it and make you more likely to relax and let your inhibitions loose when it’s time to get frisky.

Rabbit: If you’re looking for something new and effective, buy yourself a classic rabbit-style vibrator. The dual action of the stimulation of your clitoris and vaginal penetration is sure to send you into orgasm heaven. Use this toy as a massager against your most sensitive parts, use the ultra-flexible nub for a clitoral quickie or on him moving and teasing the toy up and down his shaft and around his testicles.

Ben-Wa Balls: Wearing Ben-Wa balls is a lot sexier than you think. In fact, it gives you a good pelvic floor work out too, so don’t go dismissing this one just yet. While they can be used strictly for strengthening your PC muscles, they also offer exciting and discreet sensations as the inner weights swirl with your movements. Anastasia-style pleasure at it’s best!

Blindfold: Using a blindfold in the bedroom is super sexy. Wrap the blindfold around your partner’s head and have your way with them until they’re begging you for more. Use a blindfold while trying new sexy positions or if you’re comfortable with it, let your partner take the reins. The feeling of losing yourself and just focusing on the sensations is sure to take you over the edge.

Massage Candles: Setting the mood and offering your partner a sensual massage is a sure-fire way to get things heated. Burn a skin-smoothing massage candle and blow it out. Leave it for a few minutes and pour the wax over each other’s body followed by a massage. It never lets you down but always make sure the candles you buy are skin friendly and intended for massage.

Massager:   The great thing about massagers is that it can pleasure you by soothing your sore muscles and relaxing you at an end of a long day and also by stimulating and pleasing those hotspots. They can go from a slow rumble to intense sensation with a cordless and waterproof design so you can enjoy a massage anywhere.

Couple’s Toy: Sex toys have come a LONG way. Now no matter what the distance, you and your partner can be pleased even when you’re miles apart!  The We-Vibe Sync vibrator can be controlled either with an app or a remote. Couples can connect in new, exciting ways, whether in the same room or on a different continent.

Plugs: If you’re already adventurous in the bedroom and want to try something new and exciting, a butt plug is definitely the thing for you. But remember, it’s important to start with something small, especially when you’re just starting out. Lube it up with some water-based lubricant to ensure an easy entrance.

Feather Tickler: There’s nothing sexier than getting your other half to stimulate your senses without actually touching you. The sensations you feel when stroking a feather tickler over each other’s body are gentle yet so amazingly tantalizing. A perfect addition to dress-up and role play, the tickler is one accessory you won’t want to miss out on.

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How To Use A Remote Controlled Couples Vibrator Expert Advise from the Best Adult Store in Tampa!

Picture you’re grinding on the dance floor as your partner watches you from across the room. Or maybe you’re sitting across from each other in a dark, cozy bistro, or sitting hand in hand on the subway.

That’s when you feel it…a deep, pleasurable vibration. Your partner is watching and smiling because you’re wearing a remote-controlled vibrator. And you’re partner’s holding the remote.

Sexy, right? It can be – under the right circumstances.

Here’s how to incorporate the fantasy of remote control into your love life in a way that keeps all the sexy without any embarrassing side effects.

  1. Pick your pleasure. There are all types of different remote controlled sex toys out there. So the first step is deciding what kind you want. Do you want the naughty factor of getting a buzz in public? Or do you want to use it in private to connect with a long-distance lover?
  2. Consider sound. Whether you’re in your living room or on the dance floor, having a vibrator go off in your private parts isn’t just indiscreet – it’s distracting and a little disturbing. Purchase a remote controlled vibrator that’ll provide vibration that rocks your world without leaving anyone else in the room the wiser. Discreet is sexy – especially in public.
  3. Range matters. Speaking of quality, another thing you tend to get for your money is range. If your partner has to point the controls within a foot or two of you, you’re going to end up feeling like a broken television set.
  4. Have some rules of play. Letting someone else take control of your pleasure can be hot as hell – if you set some ground rules. Tell your partner how you would like them to use the controls. What excites you? What boundaries do you want to push and which ones do you want to leave right where they are?
  5. Go for quality. There’s no shortage of cheap, flimsy things that vibrate and dare to call themselves sex toys. But it’s a high-quality, well-designed sex toy that’ll really give you a night to remember. High-quality vibrators are equipped with high-quality motors that deliver more of the right kind of power than cheap novelties. Quality doesn’t always mean super high cost, though. Shop around and read reviews to a get a sense of what’s available in your price range.  (We recommend the We-Vibe Sync!)
  6. Fly solo first. Nothing ruins a perfectly good orgasm like fumbling with unfamiliar controls or suddenly losing power at the most crucial moment. New toys often take a little practice. Before bringing your brand new friend out on the town, try it out at home. Play, fantasize and learn at your leisure. That way if you do decide to take it public, you and your partner will be experts at getting right down to business and pure, uninterrupted pleasure.
  7. Be discreet. Flirting with a little indiscretion can be fun, but try to be conscious of your surroundings and the other people you’re sharing them with like that nice, old couple sitting at the table next to you! They probably don’t want to know about the shenanigans going on under your tablecloth. You and your partner have consented to play in public. The public at large has not consented to join in the fun. Plus, keeping your pleasure under wraps is half the fun!

Remote controlled vibrators are all about putting your pleasure in someone else’s hands. Letting someone else hold those controls can be really sexy, but before you run out the door with a vibrator tucked into your pants, talk to your partner about the rules of play. You may not be in agreement about what’s sexy or about whether the frozen foods aisle is the right place to play.

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Weekend in Bed Game

Let the adventure begin! Whether you spend the weekend at home or in another romantic location, you and your lover can always spend it in bed!

Make that time together more exciting and passionate with our new Weekend in Bed Game Kit.

2 Adult Card Games, Satin Carry Bag, Paddle, Feather, Blindfold, Flogger, and Candle.