Sex with your partner can cheer you up, mellow you out, and make you feel needed and desired—but sometimes, you can’t figure out how to get in the mood. And it’s hard to figure out how to explain to your partner that you just don’t feel like having sex, but you want to feel like having sex. Adult toys Tampa might be just the thing you need.
I think we’ve all had those days (and sometimes weeks or months) when our sex drives play hide-and-seek. After a difficult project at work, a stressful time with the kids, or even an amazing but exhausting vacation, sometimes we can’t find a way to feel sexy.
If there are times when you know you’d enjoy having sex but don’t always know how to get there, here are some great ways to get yourself in the mood.
To start with, do something relaxing.
This might seem like the answer to everything, but that’s because it actually works. You can’t go from feeling stressed-out to sensual sexpot without taking some time to relax. Maybe you need a bath, a massage, a cup of coffee, or just a few minutes to yourself with your adult toys Tampa. Whatever you do, do it with the intention of preparing for sexual pleasure. (Read about the perfect massage.)
Change the rules.
Sometimes, it’s easy to fall into the routine of day-to-day life without looking up to take in your surroundings. A date night can be a really awesome time to touch base with your partner and try something you’ve both never done before.
Whether it’s a new type of food or a new move in the bedroom, using this time to explore new opportunities (or each other) makes it into not only a fun experience but a chance to grow as a couple.
Making alone time a priority is important, but if you aren’t mindful, you can sometimes miss opportunities to reconnect because you and your partner are preoccupied with everything (work, kids, household tasks) but each other.
Change the scenery.
Find a place that removes you from your everyday life for a while. Sometimes going somewhere special with your partner for a quick dinner or a drink while making sure there’s enough time left in the evening to go somewhere to get it on. Sometimes even your guest room is enough of a change of scenery to make you stop thinking about your daily grind and start focusing on your sexual desires.
Try reading or watching something that turns you on.
Focus on something exciting like erotica, steamy romance novels, a romantic movie that has some racy sex scenes in it or porn that depicts fantasies.
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Vibrators that are designed with a partner in mind, are fun to use together or solo. Investing in a few quality toys is better than having a treasure chest full of inexpensive toys. (Read: How to Choose a Vibrator.)
Sometimes we can’t relax and enjoy sex because we’re really stressed—and sometimes we’re stressed just because it’s been a while since we experienced sexual pleasure.
Using the above tactics, you can become more sexually satisfied and more connected to your partner. After all, it’s true that an orgasm (or three) is the perfect way to eliminate stress.
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