Today is Sexual Happiness Day, a day dedicated to enhancing communication about sex…specifically, good sex. Having great sex is a right, not a privilege, and communication is the way to make sure that as many people as possible enjoy great sex.
One of the quickest, cheapest and easiest ways to improve your sex life is by incorporating lube into sex. It might not sound like a big deal, but it can heighten sensation more than you would ever imagine.
Some people think that using lube signifies a failure – as if you should be automatically lubricated. Those people are missing out.
The stipulation to lube being a huge helper is the type of lubricant you use. Putting something that’s not designed for your vagina, into your vagina, is a big mistake.
Obviously, there are a lot of things you shouldn’t use as lube (petrol, hot sauce, Mercury, almond butter) but we’ve rounded up the top nine things that you might consider using, but really shouldn’t.
- Vaseline: When we recommend using lubricants to our customers, they often ask why they can’t use Vaseline. Vaseline is designed for healing, as it creates a barrier over the skin to lock in moisture and encourage the skin’s healing process. This means that it does not get reabsorbed into the body, and it stays on the tissue of the vulva and the walls of the vagina. What’s more, petroleum jelly is insoluble in water, making it hard to clean off.
- KY Jelly: KY Jelly is a fairly well known brand of lubricant; however, it contains both parabens and glycerine, which can cause thrush. It also draws moisture out of the walls of the vagina rather than hydrating them and exacerbating vaginal dryness, not helping it. This can leave the body vulnerable to infection, so could actually increase your risk of catching an STI.
- Tingling or cooling lubricants: If you like lubes that give heat or cooling, don’t panic – they’re not totally out. But you do need to be careful. Often the tingling effect is caused by menthol or chili, which can be extremely damaging to the delicate tissue of the genitals. These lubricants can also contain all sorts of chemicals that could be detrimental to your sexual health.
- Coconut oil: We all know that coconut oil is amazing with a lot of uses, but lube is not one of them. In a similar way that Vaseline is designed for healing purposes, coconut oil has antiviral and antibacterial qualities that could upset the vaginal flora. It can also clog the pores, which could cause skin irritation for some people.
- Body lotions and hand creams: Some people might assume that because a product is moisturizing it can be used as a lubricant, but these products are not designed for internal use. They could affect the vagina’s pH and cause irritation, especially if they are perfumed products.
- Liquid soap or hand sanitizer: If you think that products are safe to put near your genitals because it has cleansing qualities, think again. Douching is incredibly harmful to the vagina’s pH balance, and soaps and sanitizers can cause burning sensations to the delicate skin of the penis and vulva.
- Bio Oil: Bio oil is great, really great, but as a lube. Bio oil is a special skincare oil that aims to improve the appearance of the skin, from fading scars and stretch marks to alleviating dryness. While it can hydrate the skin, it is not suitable as a lubricant as it is only designed for external use. It is also a perfumed product that could affect the pH of the vagina.
- Saliva: Some people choose to forgo using a lubricant and choose to use saliva instead as grabbing a bottle of lube from your bedside table or drawer can seem like a mood killer for some men and women. However, while saliva from oral sex can seem more sensual, your spittle can leave the skin feeling dry.
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