Sexology 101

Sex Toys: Putting the Myths to Bed

It’s a little-known fact, but the first vibrator was actually made to be used to treat a medical condition in women. Hard to believe, but the vibrator was introduced in the old-fashioned Victorian era as a treatment administered by doctors to their female patients who were experiencing so-called hysteria.

In actuality, hysteria was a diagnosis many doctors were using for women who suffered from numerous emotional ailments ranging anywhere from depression to anxiety. Unfortunately, the women who suffered from legitimate conditions were often demeaned or overlooked by the medical community.

However, some good came from this medical use of the vibrator. For women of the Victorian period who were uneducated when it came to sex, it was probably the first time that many of them had experienced an orgasm! At that point in time, talk of foreplay and female sexual pleasure didn’t exist, so for them, reaching orgasm created positive effects for them, both mentally and physically.

But even though today’s women have access to all the information and education regarding sex that they desire, there are still many myths and misconceptions when it comes to sex toys, including the following.

Myth: Sex toys are just for people who have an unfulfilling sex life. The truth is that all types of people enjoy sex toys. In fact, research that examines vibrator use indicates that people who use sex toys are more likely to be engaging in other kinds of sex than people who don’t use sex toys.

Myth: Sex toys can be addictive. Actually, the term “addiction” implies something harmful, and there is nothing harmful about using sex toys, when used correctly. It’s true that some people can come to rely on them, but anyone can get themselves back to masturbation or sex with a partner without sex toys quite easily.

Myth: If a woman uses a sex toy, she doesn’t need a man. Not all women want to have sex with men, and people need to accept the fact that sex toys are not replacements for people. Not surprisingly, many men feel intimidated by sex toys because they mistakenly think that the most important thing about them is between their legs.

Myth: Sex toys feel unnatural. The notion that there is a kind of sex that is natural – and thereby better – is one of the worst lies told about sex. Sex is not less “natural” if we use toys and tools to make it different. Sex toys are enlivened not by batteries but by imaginations.

Myth: The more a sex toy costs, the better it is. The truth is that a $10 vibrator can give you as much pleasure as one costing hundreds of dollars. More expensive sex toys should last longer, but they won’t necessarily provide more pleasure.

Myth: Sex toys are only used by weird or kinky people. Words like “normal” and “weird” are comparative and while they may define what you feel easy discussing in public, you must realize that everyone is kinky – in one way or another – behind closed doors. Using sex toys just shows that you’re the type of person who feels worthy of receiving sexual pleasure.

Myth: Sex toys can be detrimental to your body. People who wouldn’t ever dream of using sex toys come up with a host of arguments for why they are detrimental to the body. There is no evidence available that sex toys can affect your sexual sensitivity or genitals.

So…there you have it…go forth and be kinky. Let your freak flag fly!