Sexology 101

The Dos and Don’ts of Giving Sex Toys at Christmas

Sure, there are plenty of ways to spice up your holiday…but for couples looking to introduce some excitement into their romantic lives this season, giving sex toys at Christmas may just be the way to go.

Partners can definitely benefit – both emotional and physically – from igniting some sexual novelty and excitement. And as we get older it takes more physical stimulation to get excited because our blood flow decreases and our hormones can wreak havoc on our sex levels. Sex toys given as gifts at Christmas can enhance erotic stimulation by adding in novelty.

But before you head down to our store – the premier adult toy store in Tampa – to discuss gift wrapping options, there are a few things to consider first, so today we’re going to share the dos and don’ts of naughty gift giving.

DO discuss both of your and your partner’s sexual desires.

Engaging your partner in conversation about your sex lives – and how to enhance it – is a step that should be taken before your mind turns to handcuffs and flavored lubricants and oils. Pay attention for clues about things your mate has been wanting to try.

DON’T ignore your partner’s sexual boundaries.

While it’s great to ramp up your bedroom routine, it’s essential that you respect your partner’s personal limitations at all times. Remember, this is a gift for your partner for both of you to enjoy together – not an excuse to indulge in your own fantasies.

DO take your partner’s feelings into consideration when making your purchase.

If you are going to gift a sex toy at Christmas you definitely want to let your partner know that it’s something that you’re doing for them and for your relationship. This type of gift could be mistaken as an unintentional message of judgment and dissatisfaction. At gift giving time, perhaps say something like “‘I thought this would be really fun,’ or ‘I’ve always thought it would be fun to try a vibrator and I would love to explore it with you.’”

DON’T believe that sex should just happen.

As you age, sex doesn’t look or feel like what it was when you were younger. Because of this, it does require some conversations to have the kind of sex life you both want.

DO ease into experimentation to avoid intimidating your partner.

If you’re in a new relationship or haven’t introduced toys in the past, start slowly with sensual massage products or a sexy game that encourages partners to talk about and acting on desire.

DON’T have your partner unwrap his gift in a public setting.

Giving your naughty gift should be as intimate as the gift itself. Keep it between you and your partner. Perhaps present it wearing some sexy lingerie!

With these dos and don’ts in mind, you may have more than a kiss waiting for you underneath the mistletoe. It takes a bit of courage, but recognize what the purpose of it is, which is to have more intimacy, to share your desire with your partner and to take your sex life and your intimacy to a whole new level.

It may be a good way to open up a conversation that may be difficult, but will also be beneficial and create more intimacy.

At Everything Sexy 4Play, our expert staff is looking forward to helping you with your Christmas gift list!

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