Ask These Questions When Buying a Sex Toy Buying your first sex toy doesn't have to be intimidating!

There are thousands of sex toys on the market, so it’s natural to feel a little intimidated when you’re buying one. Dildos, bullet vibrators, wand vibrators – the possibilities are endless.

The only way to know if a toy is right for you is by asking these questions when you’re shopping to help narrow down your search.

  1. What style is right for me?

Start with the basics. Sure, a climax is an end goal but do you want that from the big dildo or a pocket-sized bullet? For many, the deep, constant stimulation of a vibrator is the key to orgasm. Decide which of the main styles for women you like,

  • Dildos: Dildos offer fuss-free, vaginal penetration. Generally, dildos don’t vibrate.
  • G-Spot vibratorsCurved at the tip, they offer targeted stimulation to your G-Spot.  (Click here for help finding your G-spot.)
  • Bullet vibrators:  Designed for external use, bullets are best used for clitoral or nipple stimulation and are a great choice for beginners.
  • Rabbit vibratorsRabbits offer the best of both worlds with simultaneous clitoral and vaginal stimulation.
  1. How do I like it?

Next, look at a toy’s features. If you’re new to vibrating toys, don’t feel like you have to opt for one with 30 functions. Start small and work your way up, considering the following options.

  • Power:Some vibrators are built to have more power than others. If you want to super-charge your stimulation, look for product descriptions that emphasize this.
  • Noise:If you live in a shared house, you’ll probably prefer a quieter toy. Some vibrators are designed to do this, but none will be completely silent. If silence is golden, it’s probably best to go for a non-vibrating toy such as a dildo.
  • Waterproof: Check the product packaging to see whether your toy is waterproof and take your pleasure to the bath or the shower.
  1. Is bigger better? 

The majority of toys designed for internal use are sized similarly to that of the average male, and it’s probably best to not choose a 12-inch dildo if it’s your first time.

  1. Which lubricant is best for me?

It’s better when it’s wetter, so give your toy a little slide with some lubricant; there are two main types.

  • Silicone: Generally longer-lasting and also water resistant, it shouldn’t be used with silicone, jelly, rubber, PVC or TPE/TPR materials.
  • Water-based: Safe for use with all materials and is easy to rinse afterwards.

If you’re unsure of the material of your toy, check the product packaging. Need help choosing a lubricant? Check out our blog post.

  1. How do I clean my toy?

It’s easy for bacteria to build up, so clean your toy after each use. Use a sex toy cleaner and a damp cloth, being careful of the buttons or battery cap. If it is waterproof, you can run it under the tap. Most toys can be cleaned with a mild antibacterial soap or a toy cleaner, designed specifically for the job at hand.

Before you store your toy, make sure it’s dry. For more information regarding how to clean and maintain your sex toys, click here.

  1. How should I store my toy?

To avoid discoloration, store them in a dark, cool place. If you’ve got a growing collection, it’s important to store them separately as the materials can cause a chemical reaction when touching. Click here for more information regarding the storage of your sex toys.)

  1. What’s the difference between materials?

Materials often come down to personal preference. However, some are more popular than others. The main materials you’ll come across in women’s sex toys are:

  • Silicone: Gives a velvety-soft yet durable finish. It’s important to only use water-based lube with this high-quality material.
  • ABS Plastic: Often found in bullet vibrators, some Ben-wa balls and the handles of your toys.
  • TPE/TPR: Skin-safe, flexible rubbers often used in lifelike toys (such as realistic dildos).
  • Glass: Super strong and resistant – like a Pyrex jug. These toys can also be used for temperature play.
  • Jelly: Found in cheaper toys. They can also contain latex so avoid them if you have allergies.

If you have ANY questions about the sex toy you’re buying, don’t be nervous about asking one of our friendly female staff members.

If you need more information, click here to read about choosing the right vibrator.