Ben Wa balls may be the world’s oldest sex toy, so don’t be afraid of them! They originated in Japan around 500 AD and were initially used to provide men with a little extra pleasure during intercourse.
Ben Wa balls can be the size of regular marbles or as much as 1” in diameter. The balls used by the Japanese were metal and had mercury inside them and the movement of the mercury caused tiny sensations in the vagina, sometimes resulting in orgasm.
Some women held Ben Wa balls in their vagina while doing their housework, thereby building their sexual arousal throughout the day until their partner came home from work. Some would place them in their vagina and then sit down and rock themselves to orgasm.
Today’s Ben Wa balls are created of different types of materials such as metal, plastic, latex, glass, and even jade. Beginners should probably begin with a small set of balls and progress up to larger, heavier ones. And use them at home prior to wearing them out in public – you don’t want to lose your balls and end up in an uncomfortable situation!
Tutorial: How to Use Your Ben Wa Balls
Insert your Ben Wa balls into your vagina. You can use some lube if you need help getting them in, but most don’t. Once inside, they will feel similar to a tampon and within a few minutes, you probably won’t feel them at all.
Depending on the weight of your balls, when you start moving around, you will feel the balls wiggle inside your vagina and maybe begin to slide down. The feeling of the balls is very minor, but the slight movement of the inner balls, will cause your Kegel muscles to tighten. Depending on your level of sensitivity, you may begin to feel aroused.
Some types of Ben Wa balls have a string to connect them and others do not. Some women prefer the stringed version of the balls so they are sure to be able reach them to pull them out. But not to worry – all you need to do is push down and the balls will easily come out.
Benefits of Ben Wa balls:
- Strengthens your muscles to stop or hold the flow of urine;
- Kegel exercises and Ben Wa balls are great for older women who are beginning to lose urinary control;
- Causes clitoral erection during sexual arousal;
- Rhythmically contract during orgasm;
- Provide support to the bladder, uterus and rectum.
The balls exercise your Kegel muscles and will increase your sexual pleasure over time. It has been shown that the stronger your Kegel muscles are, the more intense your orgasms will be.
You can also leave the balls in during intercourse, and when your man’s penis thrusts, the balls will move around inside you. He will probably also like the added sensation as well.
Bottom line: Ben Wa balls are good to use while having sex and to tighten your Kegel muscles, which provides a more pleasurable sexual experience. There is no harm in using the balls every day and with the elevated activity in your vagina you may even experience an increase in your sex drive.
Remember – any time you try something new with your partner, it’s good to communicate with your partner about it. Go to the toy store together and make it a fun and exciting experience.