9 Things You Might Not Know About Orgasms

Orgasms are as much a part of women’s health as dental floss, but a lot more fun. For all the things you’ve been dying to find out – as well as things you’ve never even thought of – expand your knowledge about the “big O” with this list of enlightening facts.

  1. Orgasms can relieve pain. Got a headache? Maybe you should have sex after all. There is some evidence that orgasms can relieve all kinds of pain, including pain from arthritis, pain after surgery and even pain during childbirth. While the pain relief from orgasm is short-lived – usually only about eight to 10 minutes – even thinking about sex can help alleviate pain.
  1. Condom use doesn’t affect orgasm quality. In case you’re wondering if a condom has anything to do with the quality of your orgasm, don’t. Women are equally likely to experience orgasm with or without a condom, dispelling myths that condoms don’t make for good sex. In fact, condoms may help a couple spend more time having sex, as a man doesn’t have to ‘pull out’ quickly if he’s worried about ejaculating too soon.
  1. Thirty percent of women have trouble reaching orgasm. If you’ve ever had trouble climaxing, you’re not alone. According to Planned Parenthood statistics, as many as 1 in 3 women have trouble reaching orgasm when having sex, and as many as 80 percent of women have difficulty with orgasm from vaginal intercourse alone.
  1. Orgasm gets better with age. Sure, there are plenty of things to gripe about when it comes to age, but your sex life may actually improve—specifically the quality and frequency of orgasm. Orgasm becomes easier with age because as women become more sexually experienced, they have more confidence in the bedroom and therefore enjoy themselves more.
  1. Women who mix things up in the bedroom have more frequent orgasm. If you have trouble reaching orgasm during intercourse, consider switching things up. It is significantly easier for women to experience orgasm when they engage in a variety of sex acts as opposed to just one act. For example, vaginal sex plus oral sex would be linked to a higher likelihood of orgasm than either one of them alone. This may be because more sex acts mean that people spend more time having sex.
  1. A woman’s sexual self-esteem can affect the quality of her orgasms. Research shows that how a woman feels about her genitals is linked to the quality of her orgasms. As long as your vagina is pain-free and you don’t have any abnormal discharge, sores or other medical problems, you can consider yourself healthy and normal.
  1. There is an orgasm “gap.” While it’s true that a small number of men have trouble with orgasm, sex experts report that it’s rare. Instead, a significant percentage of women report not having had an orgasm the last time they had sex, even when their male partner thought they had. We still have an orgasm gap – while 85 percent of men thought their partner had an orgasm during their most recent episode of sex, only 64 percent of women reported having an orgasm.
  1. In rare cases, orgasm can happen without genital stimulation. We’ve all heard about women who can orgasm while sitting on a train or while getting a massage, but it’s no urban legend. Experts say it’s a real phenomenon. The reason for spontaneous orgasms during certain activities is twofold – increased blood flow to the genitals and vibration of or contact with the clitoris. The increased blood flow and the general relaxation of a massage can lead to orgasm sometimes, too.
  1. For most women, it takes a while. Many women take longer to climax than their male partners, and that’s perfectly normal. In fact, according to statistics, most women require at least 20 minutes of sexual activity to climax. If you find that your partner often reaches orgasm before you do, there are ways to help him slow down.