Even the healthiest relationships can eventually feel a bit stale and keeping things fresh and exciting, especially in the bedroom, requires just as much effort as the relationship, if not more so. When you’ve been together for a while, you may find that you need to make things a bit more interesting in the bedroom.
Although there’s no guarantee that your relationship will suffer if your sex life suffers, you definitely want to do what you can to make sure things are spicy in the bedroom. If you come to realize that your partner is boring in bed, congratulations – you’ve just taken the first step towards better sex!
So if you’re sitting around with your partner wondering how you can ignite some fireworks in bed this weekend, here are eight positions that just might be able to do that.
- Weak In The Knees
How: Have your partner lie on their back, either in bed or on the floor, and straddle their face. From here, you can sort of grind against their mouth as they stimulate your clitoris (and other fun parts) with their tongue.
Why: Nothing says “we’re totally igniting things tonight,” like straddling your partner’s face or having them straddle your face.
- The Crab Walk
How: While in the crab walk facing each other, interlock your legs, while pulling yourself close enough so your partner can penetrate you.
Why: If you or your partner are visual creatures, this position is really hot because you get to watch the penetration happen. So with you both getting this view, it’s pretty great.
- Mutual Masturbation
How: Find a spot, then proceed to masturbate. Use your fingers, your toys, or whatever else you prefer when it comes to getting yourself off.
Why: Watching your partner getting themself off is really sexy. So when you’re watching them, while they’re watching you, it’s even sexier. It builds intimacy and intimacy leads to better sex.
- Reverse Cowgirl
How: With your partner lying down on their back, straddle them while facing away from them. From here, you can either remain sitting upright or lean forward, while being penetrated.
Why: When you get into the reverse cowgirl position, you’re giving your partner a great view. What view would that be? Your ass. Whether you sleep with men or women, it doesn’t matter; your partner wants to see your ass.
- Kneeling Reach Around
How: While in doggy style, either your partner can reach around to stimulate your clitoris with a toy (or their fingers), or you can just do it yourself. It’s your call.
Why: Although sex toys being used during sex has become mainstream, if you don’t use them on a regular basis, then adding them could definitely ignite your relationship. For example, having a vibrator on tap is going to take the pressure off both of you, because your partner won’t feel like your pleasure is their soul responsibility and you won’t have performance anxiety. Sex toys add just enough to get you both off, but also give you the chance to focus on other things.
- The Plow
How: Start in missionary, then lift your legs so they’re on your partner’s shoulders. Actually, the more you roll back, the deeper the penetration.
Why: Honestly, it’s just a hot position – your legs are thrown back, your partner is in control – and you can easily stimulate your clitoris with your hand or a small toy, while feeling that intensely deep sensation of penetration.
How: For this one, you can either do it side by side, or with one partner on top of the other. Either way, you want your faces in/on each other’s crotches.
Why: I know some women aren’t down with 69, especially if there’s a big height difference, but since it’s a position that I’m pretty sure isn’t done all that often, it’s going to ignite the fireworks in your relationship.
- Seated Oral
How: Grab a chair and decide who gets to sit first. Once one partner is seated, the other partner is to get all in there with their face and stimulate, stimulate, stimulate orally.
Why: Again, we have an intimate position that can make you feel even closer to your partner than you normally would because, um, look at it. It’s delicious; no pun intended.
Yes, relationships absolutely take work. But if you can keep the fire alive in the bedroom, then at least you’ve got that going for you. So go out there and set off the sexual fireworks in your bedroom this holiday weekend!