#1. Am I an indoor cat or an outdoor cat?”
If you enjoy or want to explore vaginal stimulation, go for something longer with a curve such as a wand. If you’re into clitoral stimulation, try an egg or bullet vibrator. Or, to get the best of both worlds, go with a rabbit vibrator.
#2. Do I want to share this with partners?
You can use any sex toy with a partner, but some have cool features that make partner play extra fun. Some can be worn during intercourse, some can be worn around your partner’s finger and still others, like We-Vibe’s toys, connect to apps so that your partner can control them from a distance.
#3. Is this toy even safe?
We are way too careless about what materials we put in our bodies. Stay away from packaging with the word “jelly” on it, since jellies can contain chemicals called phthalates that have been linked to cancer and infertility. Look for a product that is free from phthalates and BPA. You also might want to avoid latex if you’ve got sensitive skin. And make sure your toy doesn’t have seams or crevices, which can house bacteria. The safest materials are silicone for soft toys and ABS plastic for hard ones. And ALWAYS use a toy cleaner when you’re finished using your toys.
#4. What’s my budget?”
There are a few things to consider here. First of all, you may not want to commit to an expensive toy until you know what you really like. On the other hand, you don’t want to sacrifice quality too much when it comes to sex toys, especially given the potential safety concerns. We suggest spending $50-$200 on your first sex toy.
#5. Do I want a battery-operated or rechargeable toy?
The cheapest toys you’ll find will probably be battery-powered, but they may not actually be that cheap once you factor in the price of batteries. Rechargeable toys also tend to last longer.
#6. Will I be using this with other people nearby?
If you share a room with someone or have an apartment with thin walls, you might want to opt for one of the sex toys that barely make a peep.
#7. Am I okay with depending on this to orgasm?
Some people find that repeated vibrator use — especially use of very powerful vibrators — can make it harder for them to orgasm without a vibrator. This effect isn’t permanent, and it’s only a problem if you consider it one. But if you want to make sure you can still orgasm with your hands or a partner, try using a vibrator only half the time you masturbate or getting a less powerful one.
All that being said, there are only so many questions you can answer yourself. Fortunately, our expert female sales team members can talk to you about what would best suit your needs – don’t be embarrassed — this is their job and they’re extremely good at it!