Sexology 101

6 Fun Facts About Men and Sex

Everyone knows there are plenty of misunderstandings surrounding female sexuality and orgasm, but the same can also be said for men. Whether it’s pressure to be a certain size or concern over performance, men are faced with unrealistic expectations regarding sex that can affect their health, happiness, and ability to perform.

Fact #1: Just because a man doesn’t ejaculate doesn’t mean you can’t orgasm.

Having an orgasm and ejaculating are two separate things, although they usually occur together. Regardless of whether a man ejaculates, the nerves that carry signals of arousal, pleasure, and pending orgasm to the brain are going to function, unless he has some sort of neurological issue that prevents this. Many men so associate the two experiences, that if ejaculation is impaired, they will stop even trying to have an orgasm.

Fact #2: Anal stimulation isn’t just for gay men.

The belief that anal stimulation can and should only appeal to homosexual men can cause insecurity, leaving heterosexual men embarrassed to admit their preferences. Anal and prostate response, including orgasm, is not linked to sexual orientation, and plenty of heterosexual men like to explore it with female partners.

Fact #3: Vibrators aren’t just for women.

Vibrators are typically marketed toward women, but the assumption that men can’t or don’t enjoy them can promote feelings of shame for men who may enjoy the stimulation. Many companies make vibrators specifically for men because regardless of gender, everybody has specialized nerve endings sensitive to the sensation. Many guys find vibration especially feels good on the ring around the base of the head of the penis.

Fact #4: Stress and distraction can and do affect performance.

Men may feel inadequate when they can’t maintain erections, but performance is largely influenced by mental factors, not just physical stimulation. Although there’s a popular belief that to prevent premature ejaculation, men should distract themselves because maintaining an erection is actually all about focus, not distraction. While it’s agreed that many men have physical issues leading to erection and ejaculation problems, worrying will exacerbate these problems. Being more attuned to sensation, not less, can lead to greater awareness of the moment of ejaculatory inevitability.

Fact #5: You can’t change the size of your penis.

No pill or lotion has been proven to work, and some may even be harmful. Vacuum pumps draw blood into the penis and make it swell, but using them too often or too long can damage the elastic tissue in the penis and lead to less firm erections. Pumping won’t create a lasting size change, but overdoing it can cause damage, scarring, and even shrinkage. There is no substance that will grow the penis.

Fact #6: Size really doesn’t matter.

In reality, many partners don’t even want a man to have a larger penis. If every man who worried about penis size used that energy to learn more about his partner’s best sources of arousal, there’d be far more bedroom happiness. For some women, vaginal intercourse is less comfortable when a partner’s penis is large, especially longer. Much more relevant to a woman’s pleasure is how aroused she is before intercourse. Penis size is beside the point when the main arousal activities focus on hand and mouth stimulation.

So how many of these facts surprised you?

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