How To Use A Vibrator For The First Time: 7 Steps

If you’re reading this, you’re likely entering the wonderful world of vibrators! First of all, please know that there’s nothing wrong with you for not knowing how to use your vibrator. Just like so many women judge themselves for not knowing how to masturbate with their hands, a lot of women judge themselves for not knowing how to use a vibrator.

But the reality is that masturbating isn’t always instinctual; you have to learn what you like. Here are seven steps for learning how to use your vibrator for the first time.

Step #1: Get to know your vibrator. The first thing you have to figure out is what your vibrator is designed to do. There are many different types of vibrators. Most vibrators are made for clitoral stimulation. Some are made for internal stimulation, typically aimed at the G-spot.

From there, you need to familiarize yourself with the settings on your vibrator. Almost all vibrators today have power settings that determine how intense the vibrations are and pattern settings that determine how the vibrators pulsate. Check out the user manual that came with your toy, or look it up online. Try out the different options on your hand or forearm, until you start to feel more comfortable with operating the toy.

Step #2: Get turned on first. When it comes to actually using the toy in the moment, it’s important to make sure you’re in the mood. Vibrators can produce some serious intensity; it can actually be uncomfortable if you try to use one before being turned on.

Do whatever you like to do to get yourself in the mood – watch porn, read erotica, fantasize, touch your body. Once you’re feeling excited for the next step, turn the vibrator on. But don’t go between your legs just yet! Continue teasing yourself by using the vibrator on your stomach, breasts, and thighs.

Step #3: Use lube. We always recommend lube, and using a vibrator is no exception. Lube can make the vibrator experience much more pleasant as it can help the toy glide against your skin instead of catching or tugging. If you’re penetrating yourself with the toy, you’ll definitely want to use lube. Make sure to read up on what lubes are compatible with your toy. In general, silicone-based lubes shouldn’t be used with silicone-based toys.

Step #4: Start slow. When you’re ready to use the vibrator on your genitals, turn it down to the lowest possible power setting. Put it on a basic pattern setting, like a constant vibration. We always recommend starting slowly because vibrators can be so intense. You can always turn the intensity up as you go, but it’s best to ease your way into it.

Step #5: Determine what level of contact you like. Another important variable to play with is the level of contact that you want between the vibrator and your skin. Some women like holding the vibrator directly against their clitoris. Other women don’t like that much sensation. You can hold the vibrator against your labia, so it indirectly stimulates your clitoris. Or you can try keeping your underwear on, and using the vibrator over that. You can even drape a sheet or towel over the vibrator for less intensity.

Step #6: Find your hot spots. Most vibrators are designed to be used externally, on your clitoris. That’s because most women need direct clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm. You’ll probably want to focus most of your attention on using your vibrator externally, but you can also experiment with using it internally (if your toy is designed for penetration). Some women like the in and out motion of penetration.

If your toy is designed for G-spot stimulation, you can try using the head of the toy to rub against the wall of your vagina. Your G-spot is located on the side of your vagina that’s underneath your abdomen. Pressure there can feel really good because you indirectly stimulate the internal fibers of the clitoris. If you don’t feel much during your first attempt, I’d try finding your G-spot and applying some pressure. If it still doesn’t feel great for you, stick to your clit.

Step #7: Experiment with the settings. Once you’ve gotten a handle on the basics, feel free to start experimenting with different settings. Crank up the intensity level, and see what setting you respond best to. Play around with the different patterns and see if you have a favorite.

But most of all…have fun!

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