Your breasts are erogenous zones that deserve plenty of TLC during sex. And while being felt up can feel delightful, many people out there enjoy more painful stimulation, particularly on their nipples. Thankfully, there’s a handy sex toy that can accomplish just that – nipple clamps.
The name may sound scary, but nipple clamps are just small, simple devices used to pinch nipples. They work by applying pressure and restricting blood flow, which can provide a painful – and pleasurable – experience.
People who enjoy using nipple clamps describe the sensation as an intense pinching feeling. They’re often associated with BDSM, since a dominant partner may put them on a submissive partner as a form of power play. But many people outside the kink world enjoy various forms of nipple play, whether it’s licking, pinching, or even biting the sensitive area.
In fact, a small 2011 study found that women’s nipple sensations are processed in the same area of the brain that processes sensations in the vagina and clitoris. So, if you haven’t considered applying a little pressure to your nipples during sex or masturbation, you may want to test the waters.
If nipple clamps sound particularly exciting to you, try experimenting with what you have at home before purchasing a set. You know that expression, ‘If you’re a hammer, everything is a nail?’ Well, if you’re sexual, everything is a sex toy. Have your partner place a clothespin on your nipples or just use their fingers as a clamping tool before buying the clamps. However, if you’ve tried and enjoyed nipple pinching at home, you’re likely ready to level up and invest in a pair of proper nipple clamps.
For those of you who are brand new to the BDSM toy, adjustable clamps are the way to go. They are made with a little screw so you or your partner can increase and decrease the level of intensity after placing the clamp on the nipple.
Sometimes, these are also referred to as “clothespin clamps,” since they resemble the household item. (This variety was accurately portrayed in Fifty Shades Darker when Christian Grey tried out a pair on Anastasia Steele’s finger.) Like many nipple clamps, they’re usually connected by a metal chain. Just know that the heavier the chain, the more weight your nipples carry, and heavier weight makes for a more extreme experience.
So start small with a light chain, and work your way up to a heavier chain for more advanced play.
Keep in mind that nipple clamps are not just for partnered play, and purchasing a pair to add to your masturbation routine is a pretty badass move. Plus, it’s a zero-pressure way to figure out your pain threshold. It’s a good idea to practice with nipple clamps on your own and experiment to learn how much sensation and pressure you enjoy before trying them out with a partner.
In terms of safety precautions, remember to start slow, with an adjustable pair on the loosest setting, and work your way up. Always listen to your body and remove the clamps the second they hurt beyond your pain tolerance. And if your nipple starts to turn blue, you should remove them immediately.
Also, if you’re using nipple clamps with a partner, it’s a good idea to pick a safe word so that you have an easy way to communicate that you’re not enjoying yourself and want to stop. But like we said, if you start with more mild stimulation and increase the intensity slowly, you’ll likely find your sweet spot.
If you haven’t shown your nipples some love recently, maybe it’s time to test out some pleasurable pain. Stop by and we’ll be happy to help you choose the nipple clamps that are just right for you!