BDSM Tampa: How To Use Handcuffs During Sex In The Best (And Safest) Way

Considering trying BDSM Tampa? If you’re looking for a beginner’s way in, handcuffs are a really simple and super-fun way to start. Restraints are a fantastic way to explore the world of bondage and discover a new level of pleasure and play. Using handcuffs may seem pretty self-explanatory, but there are a few key things to know to ensure you’re getting the most of being cuffed and doing it safely.

Introducing Restraints

When most people think of BDSM, a lovely, gentle chat is probably the last thing that springs to mind. But any form of BDSM play needs to be based on absolute trust and effective communication between partners. Establish consent, boundaries and safe words before you begin exploring. Talk to your partner about exactly what turns you on. Having this discussion allows you to go into detail and build up a scenario to play out later, while building the suspense.(Read our blog: How to Introduce Kink into Your Relationship.)

Pick Your Handcuffs Style

There are so many different types of handcuffs and restraints, it’s really not necessary to walk away with bruised wrists (unless you’re into that, of course).  When engaging in BDSM Tampa, always begin with soft cuffs, which allow you to explore restraints without having to worry about getting stuck. You can play around with control, all in the comfort of knowing there are no pesky keys to lose. Hypoallergenic silicone is a great and safe material for sex toys and accessories – and they’re soft, flexible and strong.

Putting Them On

Before anyone gets handcuffed to anything, you need to pick your position. Whether you want your hands tied above your head, behind your back or to the bedposts, the options are endless. If you’re the one being retained, you’ll have to rely on your partner to position you in your chosen cuffs. With your discussion beforehand, you should both be quite clear of what everyone wants and is comfortable with.

Starting with either yourself or your partner laid on your back, and restrained with hands above your head, is a simple and pleasurable position to start in. Whatever you want to do once you’re in position, is totally up to you. But it’ll leave you free to get into loads of awesome sex positions and also means that you can explore erogenous zones and both give and receive oral sex.

Communicate

During BDSM Tampa, reassure your partner by talking to them throughout, and telling them exactly what you’re going to do to them next. This allows them to voice any concerns and can also settle any nerves they may have.

Play with Temperature and Other Accessories

Temperature play is so much fun, and introduces new sensations to your sex play. Freezing lube in an ice cube tray is a super-fun (and slippery) way to use it. With your lover’s hands already cuffed above their head, add a blindfold. One sense becomes heightened when another is taken away. Watch how their body responds as you slide the ice cubes over them – the coldness will also increase skin sensitivity.

Rubbing the frozen lube on their neck, nipples, inner thighs and genitals makes bloody rush to the area, too. Kissing and licking their erect nipples, or gently blowing on their chilled, lubed neck will be the ultimate tease.

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