How to Use a Strap-On

Strap-ons are one of the most versatile sex toys in the business, but they are often overlooked due to the perception that they’re only for same-sex female couples or for pegging your partner.

In reality, there are countless styles of strap-ons that work for any combination of partners and genders, and they come with such unique benefits that you’ll wonder why you hadn’t introduced them into your sexual routine earlier.

Especially for beginners, the strap-on experience can be very powerful. You are learning to use a product attached to you to please someone, male or female, that you aren’t used to having, and once you get in the groove, IT’S ON! And many users say that it makes them feel empowered!

If it’s new for you, before you jump into using this toy, take a moment to read our essential beginner tips.

Communicate exactly what you want. As always, when introducing something new to your sexual routine, it’s important to talk to your partner(s) and get a clear idea of what each of you is comfortable with and what you’re expecting, especially with something as versatile as strap-ons.

Before diving in, nail down who is comfortable wearing the strap-on, who is comfortable receiving it, and what kind works best for your individual desires.

Then, keep up the communication throughout. An appendage that the wearer can’t “feel” means they have to check in more than usual. Start slow, and be receptive to feedback. If something isn’t working, don’t be hurt. The problem could be the harness, the toy, the angle, or beyond, so try other options!

Find the right size.

You don’t want to be fumbling around with the toy while wearing it, and you sure don’t want to take on more than you or your partner can chew. When buying your first strap-on, take extra care to ensure the harness is adjustable and the dildo size is comfortable.

Research the right positions. Strap-ons aren’t something you should dive right into without planning. Both you and your partner should look into interesting positions, then inform each other about what you want to try, and speak openly when in use on how deep, fast and so on.

Know that lube is your best friend.

Introducing a new object to your body could always benefit from a little extra help, and that’s exactly what lube is. Since many dildos are made of silicone, it’s important that you’re using a water-based lube.

Treat it like it’s a part of you.

You’ll have the best experience with a strap-on if you not only get familiar with it, but also enjoy it. Apply and stroke the strap-on as though it was a real penis between your legs. This also helps give you a good feel of the product. The more you act as if it is a part of you, the more comfortable you will feel with it. Just have fun!

One option is to get used to the strap-on solo before bringing in another person. Especially if you’re planning on being the giver, wear the strap-on alone around the house and make sure it works for you, both aesthetically and mechanically, so you know how to best control it with your partner(s).

Use the strap-on differently depending on where it’s going. A strap-on can be used orally, vaginally, or anally, and the techniques are different for all of them. Don’t approach each with the same speed and vigor, especially if this is the first time.

Clean up and stay safe! Since a strap-on can be used in so many different ways and places, hygiene is of the utmost importance. Purchase an anti-bacterial cleaner to apply to the toy after each use, and be careful with fluids. Ensure the strap-on is clean when transferring it from the anus to the vagina.

Excited to try a strap-on yet?

 

 

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