How to Find and Stimulate the P-Spot

So what exactly is the “P-Spot”? It’s the prostate gland that is located in the middle of the pelvis and produces part of the fluid that comes out when a man ejaculates. You can’t touch the prostate directly, but it is possible to stimulate it indirectly, internally via anal stimulation and externally by massage. So how do you find and stimulate the p-spot?

Not all people with prostates enjoy having it stimulated.  Like the g-spot, or any other part of the body, some people will find stimulation arousing, others will find it boring and some may even find it painful. But for many the prostate is a source of deep sexual pleasure.

Following are our top tips if you want to learn how to find and stimulate the p-spot.

Wash up and relax.

When it comes to putting anything up in an anus, a common concern and hesitation is about the possibility of coming into contact with feces. Having a warm bath or hot shower may help alleviate anxiety about this. It also helps to relax, which is an important state to be in for any sex play. A bath or shower can also be a great place to explore your own or your partner’s body.

Smooth out the rough edges.

The lining of the anus is very sensitive and can be torn easily. Make sure your nails are short and smooth.  If you’re playing with sex toys, make sure they are safe for anal penetration.

Turn yourself on.

Because the prostate swells when aroused, it’s easier to find when you’re hot and bothered. Watch an adult movie, masturbate, fantasize…whatever gets you in the mood.

Get comfortable before you stimulate the p-spot.

If you are exploring on your own, find a position you are most comfortable in where you have access to your bum. Try lying on your side or squatting. Sitting in a comfortable chair might work, or lie on your back with your legs in the air. Using sex furniture can help you get comfortable.

From the outside in.

You never want to rush the penetration part of anal play. Start with an external massage using massage oils and perhaps a finger massager. The perineum is located between the scrotum and the anus. Many people find that massaging the perineum is relaxing and pleasurable. You probably won’t be able to feel the prostate with your fingers while massaging the perineum, but you are actually stimulating it indirectly.

Go on in to stimulate the p-spot.

When you are ready to insert a finger in the anus, try to tune into your breath. You can use conscious breathing techniques to deepen your awareness of physical responses. Make sure you have lots of lubricant on hand, literally and figuratively. The best way to insert a finger in the anus is to start with the pad of your finger first (not the tip). Gently put the pad of one finger up to the opening of the anus and leave it there while you breath. When you are exhaling, push out as if you’re trying to go to the bathroom and you should feel your sphincter muscles relax a bit and your finger should be able to slide in. Once inside, rest a moment while you get used to the sensation of having something in your anus.

Finding the prostate.

You should be able to feel the prostate about two inches in and toward your belly. It is often a walnut-shaped bump. Some men will know when they are touching it, others won’t notice much at all. It can be easier to have someone else find it for you.

Experiment with different kinds of touch to stimulate the p-spot.

Once you’ve found the prostate, you can experiment with what feels good. Some people like the feeling of consistent pressure, while others prefer vibration or an on-off kind of pressure. You can also experiment by squeezing your PC muscle and see how that changes the feeling.

Using sex toys.

Anal sex toys can be a great way to explore prostate stimulation. Toys that have a slight curve are often designed for prostate stimulation. Some toys will vibrate, which is a completely different kind of sensation that some guys like and others don’t. If you’re going to try a vibrator, be sure to get one with variable speed, so you can start slow if you want to.

Butt plugs are anal toys designed to be inserted in the anus and stay in place. Some guys will put in a butt plug and then have other kinds of sex play (either masturbation or play with partners). Many say that having a butt plug in provides a mild but constant prostate stimulation abd really changes the way that their orgasms feel.

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