In days gone by, thinking was that guys would run for the nearest exit if you pulled out a vibrator during sex. The theory was that it freaked them out to have another “package” in the room.
Thankfully, that’s false. Since so many men are open to the awesome sensations a vibe can deliver, we’re sharing our best tips on using one with your man.
Buzz it on him before you strip him down. Lay him on the bed, turn it on, and rub it over him. Start at his knees, run up his upper thighs, and circle it around the bulge in his pants. This way, he’ll get comfortable with the feeling.
Start on a slow setting. Use the tip to circle your nipples and then his. As you circle, turn up the speed. Alternate between the vibrator and sucking his nipple while he does the same to you. The back-and-forth and the heat from your lips feel amazing.
Turn it up full throttle. The shaft of a man’s penis isn’t so sensitive, so he can handle it. Then move it up one side of his penis and down the other. It’ll stimulate his entire penis and make him super hard.
Use it during oral sex. Hold the side of your vibe against your cheek as you take him in and out. Your wet, quivering mouth will feel unexpected and arousing.
Turn it down low. Wrap it in your panties to lessen the sensation. Then hold the vibrator against his scrotum while you fondle his penis. A man’s testicles can’t take very much stimulation, so the muffled shaking is just right.
Introduce it while he uses his tongue to pleasure you. Have him put the vibrator inside you angled slightly toward your navel. It will hit your G-spot and the combo of stimulation will make for an incredibly intense orgasm.
Give him total control. Let him use the toy on you during penetration. Here’s a position that opens you up perfectly for him: Have him lie on his back, then get on top and lie so your back is against his chest. The entire front of your body is revealed, and he can reach around and trail the vibrator from your breasts to your clitoris.
Use it on his perineum. The small patch of skin between his balls and anus is supersensitive. Pick up a small, egg-shaped model (putting anything bigger near his booty may freak him out), and whip it out while you’re on top. As you ride him, reach behind and hold it against that area.
If he is hesitant about incorporating a toy into sex, start him off slowly with a vibrating ring, which is a silicone ring you can slip around his penis that has a tiny vibrator attached. The pulsing will feel awesome at the base of his penis, and if he’s on top, it’ll hit your clitoris as he thrusts.